Would you abstain from sex a few weeks or months before your wedding to make it more special?

Yes, I think for the purposes of making it extra special, absolutely. Not to be too crass here, but I'm sure you've heard the phrase "why buy the cow if you get the milk for free"? I mean, what could the reasoning be against wanting to make the wedding night even that more amazing for the both of you-for an immediate gratification? As far as a stress reliever, well, be that as it may, I find it rather ridiculous to take something that is supposed to be the ultimate physical connection between two people and reduce it to something like "hey, I had a bad day, can a borrow even just a part of you for a few minutes". I will also say that your reasoning of "I could be doing other things for the wedding" is, to me, again diminishing the importance of having sex with someone holds, or is supposed to hold. It sounds like you're already of the idea that sex is meant to be something sacred, so don't think about it as "well I'm doing this, but I could be doing that", because I think that thought process could actually carry over into your married life, where it just becomes another thing to do, and ultimately less enjoyable. Overall, I think that you still being a virgin has been respected to this point, what harm is there in waiting just a little longer? Sometimes lost in all this is that sex is at least half a phychological experience, certainly not just a physical pleasure. When "going without" for whatever amount of time, the anticipation builds, and the allure becomes even that much stronger. Think about it in terms of something else in everyday life (this of course presumes your partner has had sex before). Say, you haven't heard your favorite song in several months, or you haven't had pizza or ice cream in like forever. Then the song comes on the radio, and you're feeling like "oh WOW, I haven't heard this in like forever! This is awesome! Or, WOW I've never had pizza/ice cream taste so darn good! Trust me, without a doubt, it'll be better, much better, ON your wedding night if you wait UNTIL wedding night!!! Sorry a little long winded, but hey, forgive me, I was on a roll!! ;)

If you are a virgin and want to stay that way til' your wedding night - thats fine.

But to be intimate with your fiance and then withhold for a time claiming it will make your wedding night "special" is idiotic. I think it could be deemed cruel & unusual punishment for the person who didn't come up with the idea. So many people are too tired for sex on their wedding night anyway. And sex for the 1st time as husband & wife will be memorable/special even if you had sex the day before.

Abstaining from sex to make it 'special' is like abstaining from baseball practice to make the world series more special.

The fact that you are married should be enough to make it special. Get some practice in so you can enjoy it and find out what you like to do.

I asked this question here a few weeks ago. My fiance and I are abstaining for two months before. We've lived together for a long time, and we want to make it more meaningful.

We are going to wait. Simply because we have boring sex lol so often and because we have three kids... we rarely get more than a 'quickie' before one of the kiddos is up having to go to the bathroom, or had a bad dream or isn't feeling well. We rarely get time to ourselves. We arent able to go on a honeymoon--but we were able to get a hotel room the night of the wedding. We would like to take some time away from 'quickies' and save it up for a child-less night to actually truly enjoy it for what it is--the closest two people who are in love can physically be. Some people make think its stupid, but its not for them to decide-- it works for us.

i can answer this because i have actually tried abstaining from sex just to make it more "special" for a certain occasion and honestly its the same thing. And sometimes its even worse waiting cuz ur expecting the best and then its not. So i get mines every chance i can. u are never guaranteed it will be great that ONE time.

i really don't see a reason to. if you don't have sex for a while it could cause him to ejaculate quicker and i don't think that is something that you would want on your wedding night. you want it to be something to remember not something you look back at and think "that could have gone better". i think you should test it out a head of time. stop now for 30 days and see what happens. if you feel it is more romantic then go ahead and wait til the wedding night. just make sure you know what you will possibly be getting in to on the wedding night.

I honestly would hate my significant other for wanting to wait. It doesn't make anything more special. Just because you didn't have sex in a few weeks doesn't mean an epiphany will ring on the night of the wedding. But that's just me, I need my sex.

i got married last june and me and my husband abstained from sex for about 2 months...i hated the idea at first (it was his idea), but it did make the wedding night very special...i am not saying that it wouldn't have been special anyway, but it made it even more amazing. its definately not for everyone, but i would suggest that everyone at least entertain the idea....

me and my fiance decided that we wouldnt have sex for a week. we just decided this cause we have sex every night and didnt want it to feel like just another night so we will be eager to have it that night and be a little more special since it will be a week that we havent made love.