How can you regain trust after your husband is unfaithful?

Trust is earned .

Acceptance is what you need . That is , who he is .

If you have love for him as he is , then continue to love him with those faults . If not , then a change is in order .

Unfortunately, this is a bad situation for us girls. You have already built a foundation and family, and obviously care a lot about him since you don't want to leave. But, unfortunately many men once they know they can get away with cheating, will continue to do it after a couple months of getting caught they will start again. You need to have a serious separation of a month, and see if he is still willing to fight and completely depressed. Be strong, and if he puts up with the month and really works hard to regain your trust, take him back. If it happens again, its time to leave.

That is a sad thing...Love is build on trust, and when trust is broken, love has little "footing" to rest upon...I think the act of cheating is one of those things that some can overlook it and forgive and forget....Others, maybe those that really put their heart into the relationship and gave their all to their mate to have them turn around and stray...they just cannot tolerate the actions of such a DEEP MISTAKE...that is not a tiny mistake, that is HUGE...You may be able to forgive him...But, that doesn't mean you can forget...and it also doesn't mean if you choose to walk away from the relationship you haven't forgiven him...He did the act...He created the problem...No one EVER has an excuse to cheat on their mate...EVER....whether you choose to stay or go...is up to you...Haveing trust and faithfulness and LOVE in a relationship is a must for me personally...When that is betrayed by a selfish act, they have demolished that...Hope you gain some peace. Take care.

Well, gosh.

I could forgive my wife. I want to.

If she would ASK for forgiveness.

And then, promise me, and ASSURE me that it would never happen again. (in away that can convince me she's not lying, because the LAST time she promised, well, that didn't work out. . . )

AND - maybe if she signs a post-nup agreement so that she can't take my house, I get joint custody, and NO ALIMONY.

Then, MAYBE I can trust that she has an interest in working on the relationship. Instead of shining me on so she can continue to sponge off of me, and go around screwing other people behind my back.

My husband of 13 years cheated on me with a co-worker. He wanted a 2nd chance. I did give him one but the woman wouldn't leave me alone. After a year I couldn't cope with it anymore. I loved him but I just couldn't trust him anymore. I did forgive him and we are friends today because of my son but that is as far as it goes.

If he didn't love me enough to want to be faithful to me then he doesn't deserve me. I'm now with a man who wants to spend the rest of his life with, most of his time and I know he will take care of me through thick and thin. I've already had a bad time after a car accident and he didn't stray. He was there for me the whole time.

I'm glad I didn't waste any more of my life with the man who I feel stole my youth and I had to relearn how to date all over again.

It's hard and I wondered for years if I had done the right thing. Now I know that I did. We are going on 6 happy years in August.

oh my goodness...i am sorry. it is really unfortunate, yet most likely that this infidelity will be a part of you forever. even if your husband never strays again, when he is delayed for any reason (innocent or guilty situation)....you will question yourself about where and what he may be up to. if you really desire to continue and move on with your husband...be prepared for a real emotional ride! as heartbreaking as it was for me, i have never regretted standing by my decision to leave. i have lamented his absence (and, still do from time to time) yet i could not imagine living the rest of my days trying to trust a person that betrayed everything we were and meant. i couldn't trust him or respect him....paranoia and self-doubt was such an unhealthy way to feel! sorry to say (truly sounds bitter, but i am not)...once a dog, always a dog! good luck!!!

this happen to me in my first marriage. we are divorced. we had a 2 month old and i found out. we were married 3 years also. i myself could not get past the hurt, betrayal, and thinking we've only been married 3 years, what the hell is next. once someone breaks that trust, it is broken for good in my eyes. i don't think that i ever could've had sex with him again because the whole time i'd be thinking of him sticking his dick into someone else. plus, what kind of diseases would the inconsiderate bastard be bringing home? life goes on, that was 16 years ago for me. and i have remarried a wonderful and loyal man. divorce him, take him for everything you can and move on!!!!!!!!!!!!

You can't. You may be hurt now, but over time you will grow resentful and probably start hating him for what he did.

He will do it again in his life, thats a given...the question is, are you going to wait around as his wife.

Have some pride and dump the cheating bastard

No way would I stay,, and I didnt. I took the kids and left and filed. Best thing I did for me and the kids. They now know that you dont treat anyone that way and if you do you get what you desirve. I could never sleep with him after I found out. He makes me sick. I let the other girl have him , but she decided she didnt want him either!

nope. you can never trust him again. think about it. are you ever going to forive him? no. that is so disgusting. i truly don't understand how you can get married and then cheat on your wife or husband. nobody takes marriage seriously these days it seems. i would leave him. he obviously doesnt love you. and doesnt respect you. don't stay with the loser. i would never stay with anyone that cheated on me. that is the ultimate sign of disrespect. seriously i dont' know how you would ever trust him again. whenever he goes out he could be lieing. anything he says, i wouldn't trust him. good luck. but i think you are really dumb if you stay with him.