What should I expect when my bf goes into the Navy?

Hello! I went through the same thing you will in November, I went through it in June 2006 and we are now happily married! You can't see him before graduation, my husband got to call me for about 2 minutes a day or so after he got to basic to give me his address, but some people may not be able to do that. Otherwise it'll take about 2 weeks for a letter, and their mail only goes out about 1 day a week, usually Mondays and I always got my letters on Thursdays. He only got to call mew a few times which was hard but it was better than nothing!

Just write him everyday, it is hard and you will miss him a lot but its nice to look forward to his letters, you have to try to make the best out of the situation. They need you just as much as you need them while they're there.

As for graduation, he'll get 2 tickets, but a lot of times there are guys whose families don't make it and they give someone else their tickets so don't stress about that. After graduation, you can spend the day with them, then they have to go back at night, usually around 9, but they're out again the next day early in the morning, around 7 or 8, so u will have a day or 2 after his grad to spend time with him. About a week later is when he will go to wherever they are sending him... but when he gets there, its a lot easier to communicate, he has a little more freedom. Sorry this is so long, hope I could help!

I dated my wife for four years prior to joining the Navy, and despite having no plans to do so when I joined, I married her the weekend after my boot camp graduation (called Liberty weekend). Primarily, her letters of encouragement, and most of all, love, were what made boot camp doable for me. You will not, unfortunately be able to see your boyfriend during his training, or hear from him more than once or twice, but, it's only two months, and in Navy time, that's NOTHING. Like I said, my realtionship got STRONGER while I was away, and now we are a VERY happily married couple.

After boot camp, your boyfriend will go to A-School. If you guys end up married (Waukegan Court House), you may be able to move with him depending on the length of school (6 months or more). If not, you'll have to wait until he's finished with a-school, when he *should* be allowed to take leave.

My best advice for you and your boyfriend is that when you go and see him for graduation, you should try and look pretty, if you can cook, make him something to eat (like cake, or whatever), and get your own hotel room. Aside from the obvious, he'll want to take a shower by himself, and lay down on a real bed in the middle of the day. It seems ridiculous now, but come January, you'll see exactly what I mean.

I wish you guys the best of luck. If you guys are a good couple, he'll need you, not just in boot camp, but in the years to come.

Thanks for looking out. Hang in there.

Limited contact, only 1 or 2 phone calls allowed so he may not even be able to call you. You will get letters from him, but it can take awhile for those to come. You can mail him letters as well.

You can't see him before Graduation unless it is permitted the day before or that morning, but usually not. Afterwards it can depend on what he is going to do, where his school is and when he has to report. Some have to leave immediately, some get some time off and others have longer.

No you cannot see him before graduation day.

You will get to spend the time following graduation with him and maybe the weekend depending on where his "A" school is located after he gets out of boot camp.

He will send you your invitation for graduation that you will need to get in the gate the day of the ceremony.

You cannot write to him until he sends you a letter first giving you his exact mailing address for you to use. If you just mail something to him with his name before you have his ship and division number he will probably never get the letter.

I know this sucks for you but you will need to be very patient and find something else to do with your time while he is away. If you sit around waiting for him to call, which will be a rare thing, or stalking the mailman you will go crazy. Go to school, go to work, go do something productive with your life. Just because he leaves does not mean your life should stop. You need to find out who you are when he is not with you. If you want to stay with him and maybe spend a life with him you will need to be very strong on your own since he will either be in boot camp, "A" school, underway or deployed with his ship. He stops being your everyday do whatever you want to do whenever you want to do it boyfriend the day he ships for boot camp. Decide now if that is what you want for at least the next 4 to 6 years depending on how many years his Navy contract is. If you cannot not deal with being away from him and maybe not hearing from him for days, weeks.....decide now if you want to stay in the relationship. Nothing wrong with wanting more for both of you. If you can do, do it well and don't go crazy on him all the time like a lot of Navy wives seem to do. If you don't hear from him, he is doing his job, that's it. Good luck.

After he goes in it will take about two weeks to get your first letter from him. After his 8 or 9 weeks are up (He completes boot camp) he will be sent to a school for training. (Depends what job he's going for so not sure how long his training will be) You will not be able to live with him during training. However, if and when he has a week end off you may see him. After training he will be assigned to a ship and he will be out to sea up to 9 months at a time. You may be able to see him for about one or two months a year. We had a saying when I was in the Navy. Buy a camera and watch each other grow older. The Navy is not for getting closer. They will keep you apart most of the next four years.

Jut write him every day and tell him how proud you are for him and don't be scare time goes fast. For him just tell him to listen and he will be fine. For the time of graduation family get to spend time with them but they don't get to go home after training they go to school for their job and that's other 3 to 4 months! Anyway good luck and stay strong

What are YOU worried about? He's the one going to the easiest bootcamp of all the Armed Forces.

I really don't know but I wanted to tell you don't listen to Heyo....I'm sure he can call you but you will not be able to call him.

Don't be scared! Everything will be fine.