Is there a difference between begin a gold digger and?

I think it's OK to refuse to go out with someone who can't (or won't) support themselves. That's something everyone should do, or at least know how to do. But what does it matter if they can support YOU? Personally, I cringe at the idea of being financially supported by my partner; it goes against everything I stand for.

Yes there's a difference and that's what I was trying to get at (providing the question is based on my answer) :)

Just because a woman insists a man be capable and responsible in employment doesn't mean she wants to marry him and take all his money after a divorce. Just because I want my future husband to be a provider doesn't mean I won't contribute and be a provider. I don't want to end up in a situation where I can't afford basic needs for my (future) child, husband and myself.

Who does? While at the same time, I would say that you can't help who you fall in love with, I would openly say that if I felt a man was a financial mess, the relationship would always be on shaky grounds.

Edit: Why should I have to work a full time job supporting a man who is more than capable of finding a job. With the way the labour force is right now, there's no excuse for anyone to be unemployed in Canada. There's jobs out there. Just because you think you're good to work them doesn't give you a good excuse to remain unemployed. I stand by what I said.

I could never picture myself marrying someone that didn't have a similar educational background as myself. This being said, I'm not going to find myself attracted to someone who doesn't make a decent living.

However, I work too and wouldn't want them to support me, but I don't want to support them either.

Another reason I need job security in a partner is the fact that I want to stay at home with my (future) children until they are old enough for school. I can't do this if my husband isn't financially stable.

That may sound harsh to some people but in the real world "love will keep us alive" just isn't enough. I need someone who can be a partner financially, and take care of a family.

Luckily enough, I found an AMAZING man who shares all of my views.

Broadly speaking, no. What's the difference: both are founded on the man's capacity to support the woman. If the man doesn't earn enough to provide the woman the lifestyle she seeks (gold digger), and hence has rejected him, how is that any different than rejecting a guy who is incapable of supporting the woman that lifestyle?

When I was young I never thought about how much money a man had, it never even crossed my mind. However, nowadays i am glad that I married a man with a good income who is able to support me and the children so that I don't have to try and 'juggle' a job and a family, which has always appeared to me a nightmare scenario.

But it was something I never thought about at all when I was young. I can understand that money can make a man more appealling, and I am rather impressed by the foresight of women who consider this before marriage. It never even crossed my mind when i was young.

I believe there is a difference. A gold digger will marry a man she does not love and is not attracted to simply because he is rich. (Anna Nicole Smith)

Many people believe it is good for children to have a parent at home, therefore financial stability is a reasonable thing to look for.

The answer to your question and your analogy may just be a matter of semantics. So, let me put the question to you: If some women wanted to marry your widowed father or your favorite son, both of whom have amassed consideable wealth, and the women DEMANDED that they be able and willing to support them in a lifestyle THEY wanted, would you find that an endearing quality?

And if your widowed father or favorite son wanted to marry these ladies, would you just say it is up to them, or would you give them some "motherly" advice against it?

"Is there a difference between begin a gold digger and?

simply refusing to go with men you find no capable of supporting you in the lifestyle you expect ?"

No, I don't think so. I find it repugnant that one uninjured, healthy human being expects another person to support him/her.

I hope so. I broke up an engagement with a guy who lived in a homeless shelter and refused to make any changes to his situation. I don't consider myself greedy, superficial or money-grubbing, but I was afraid of what would happen to me if I married him. Right now, I support myself and would be willing to support someone else also, but if we are married he has equal right to our money and who's to say what he would do with it.

absolutely! huge f-ing difference! getting with a loser who doesnt have a job (or works at DDs or MBs) is NOT a good decision! what, you'll have to support both of you? yeah, right! but you should always be able to support yourself, in case things don't work out between u 2.