what can i do?

Well sweetheart he is locked up. why dont you find you a babysitter nd go out with some friedns or you could visit some family. And the reason why he probably hardly talks on the phone you do know that the conversations are recorded right oh and about bringin him something in the pants thing i wouldnt do it because if yall got caught he could get into more trouble

First off, don't bring anything into jail for him. That could get you into trouble and then who would take care of your baby? It sound like he needs to grow up and be a man. How can he forget to go to a probation meeting? I honestly think that he should stay in jail for the month so he can maybe get his act together. I know it will be hard, but I don't think that you should visit him at all if he ends up in jail. What you should do is send him a letter about how you feel. I just don't think that he will come out of jail in 30 days ready to be a mature adult. I honestly think that you should break up with him. I know you are lonely, but you have to think of what is best for your child. Is is really good for the baby to have him around when he can't even take care of himself and make a probation meeting on time? You can email me at any time and I will be glad to talk to you and let you vent and I will help you out as much as I can. I know this is going to be hard for you, you just have to stay strong for your baby.

You need a boyfriend who will put you first in his life, especially if that little one is his. If he thinks more of his cell mates than he does of you, now is a good time to find someone else who will treat you right and take care of business.

Until then, go to where people congregate (and don't get into trouble). Singles meetings, church, civic events are just a few to start out with.

He was trying to use you so he can break the rules for another cellmate, and he was not responsible in following his probation orders. You need someone more responsible in your life.

You have a baby to look after. Can you get any support from any of the baby's grandparents?

i agree. you are obviously not happy with this person. i suggest that you really think about what is best for you and your baby.

this is the person you want your baby to call daddy.

my cousin was in the same situation. she got pregnant at 18 and her boyfriend was in jail. she made the decision that she wanted nothing to do with her boyfriend any more. didn't even ask for child support. no visitation. she always told her when she was little that some time kids don't have both parents.

but anyway. please think about what you are doing. think about your situation. and god, please don't risk your safety. whatever your boyfriend asks to bring in, don't bring it in.

he is there for a reason....

dude go too food stamps and welfare! you have a baby now! take of of that baby! go back home if you have too! get away! are you gonna live your life like this! This is America, free country! Sounds too me your child will have a horrible life if you continue too hang out with the Dad! He'll only bring you down in his misery!

hi..

well, i've never been in jail..but..i've seen several movie about the life inside jail..in my opinion..his friend in jail is the one whose admitted as the 'king' in jail..and usually they always ask something from the newby..

there's two alternative..

first,

dump him..

second,

wait for him to tell his problem..maybe he needs the perfect time to tell you..

just hope for the best and expecting the worse..

god bless you and your baby..

Wait for him to come out, try joining yoga classes(those baby and mother types), you can meet young mothers like yourself.

It's just a month, it'll be gone before you know it.

try social networking sites for friends.

Take Care :)

oh! And shop, call the babysitter.

Go out and give yourself a break, you deserve it.

dump him,get on with your own life.he will just go back to jail again.

i would dump him. why on earth would you want to be with someone who has been in jail?