I hate my Bridesmaid Flowers! Help!?

This would be the reason I am doing my own flowers.......I would just tell her that they need some pruning. Be honest!

First things first is to learn how to say No. No they aren't just right, or no let's work on them together. You have the power to say NO, the other persons reactions is not your responsibility. This is your day and you owe it to YOUrself to be pleased and happy with everything. If you had paid a professional for them you would have told them you didn't like them. She is being gracious but she still deserves the truth. What if some one finds out and tells her...oops!! So, you have decided that you don't like them ask her if you and she could make some adjustments. All brides (and women) change their mind. She will either be upset or happy to comply. Either way you have not done anything wrong by asking or sharing your feelings. It is always better to be truthful and lovely than to lie. Honesty is very important and shows your integrity If she doesn't want to help then ask someone else to help and make the adjustments. She will only be mad or upset for so long. She is a family member and love and honesty is just as important there as it is with friends. .

Tell her you want to look them over again, because you're so excited for the wedding, you want to see them again.

Then when you go over, just be extremely polite, but cautiously honest. "I really love this, but I think I want to take these vines out, if that's okay..." I'm sure she'll oblige. Then take them home with you and make your adjustments. I'm sure you'll be able to salvage them.

Even if you totally overhaul them, she's not going to chase you down the aisle saying "what did you do to my flowers?!" She will instantly understand and probably be gracious about it. If she makes a comment about you changing them, you can just say "Well, I wanted to give them my own creative touch too, I got inspired when I saw some other flowers at the store. You know how it is." Be confident about it, and she won't press it further.

In a few years, maybe this will make an amusing anecdote! Best of luck!

You know your half-sister...will she be offended if you ask her to change a few things? There have to be positives about the bouquets focus on those and suggest subtle changes to make them more to your liking. Option number two use them...honestly the bouquets are not seen that much. You can take pictures with or without them and even if they are in some pictures you will remember how wonderful your day is not the bouquets. Changing them is not worth alot of hurt feelings just take that into consideration.

Okay, this is coming from someone who did the same thing with the table arrangements for my reception. My older half-sister, too!! They were little candles with rings of flowers around them and balloons coming out of the center. The ballons were supposed to be about three feet above the table. I went to decorate the ceremony room, and my sister went to the reception room. When I finished, I met her in the reception room. I started crying, because she had the balloons so low that the candles couldn't be lit without popping the balloons!! Plus, she had cut off the extra balloon ribbons, so it couldn't be fixed. End result - no one at the reception noticed, and my sister's feeling were incredibly hurt. She was only trying to help. What should have been done is that you show her exactly what you want, and she makes it. It's too late now, so grin and bear it. Lesson learned, huh?

Find a picture of some that you like that have flowers like your current ones (simple and that cant be really messed up) and tell her you found this picture and fell in love with them completely and if it would be too much trouble to change it to that.

Ask her if you two can sit down and make a few changes. Tell her you saw some pictures of something a bit different as much as you like those you want to dow aht you saw now!

As hard as it seems I would just tell her that you like the general concept of the flowers but would like to alter them some. Its your day and you don't want to look back and wish you hadn't said something. She may be hurt at first but she'll understand.

Just leave them be and get over it. Unless you're allergic to one of the flowers, you have no say.

Be honest. If you love her and she loves you, she will understand. Best of luck to you. And congrats on your upcoming wedding.