Opinions most welcome.....Christianity and divorce?

Well for one thing how in the hell did his wife trick him by getting pregnant? Did she drug him then rape him or what? Or was it rather he put his penis in her and then ejaculated ? So its all her fault is it ? Another thing God is not talking to him telling him to get another woman pregnant to be happy . Whats his father have to do with anything ? Is this a kid we are talking about ? Its great he cares for his wife and child but to blame her for not being what he wants to be is reticules just as its reticules that he thinks it was all her fault for getting pregnant . OK well God did grant man divorce . Read your bible and get knowledge it seems you guys are lacking in that department . One more thing i would like to say . Being that your acting like the good Christian and all just what in the hell are you doing sticking your nose into a married couples business telling that man that it isn't fair for either of them unless your interested in that guy . My advise to you is keep your nose where it belongs before you end up burning in hell .

Edit : But its OK for you to judge his wife saying she tricked him? Who are you to decide that he deserves better . Who are you to come in between a man and wife . Who is judging who?

If HE feels that strongly that God is against divorce that he is willing be the martyr and sacrefice his happiness then why doens't he ask his PASTOR for advice or better yet, work on his marriage with his wife.

If he at least likes her, there is a chance for him to grow to love her. IMO, it is resentment that keeps him from loving her.

Also, he can't technically be trapped into marriage because he did have sex with her. Had he not done that then it would be an issue now.

So, he either needs to BUCK UP and wipe his tears to get a divorce or work hard to work on his part of the marriage and so should his wife.

I am a non-denominational christian and even though this may be a marriage not put together by God...God still honors all marriages. So he has a decision to make.

www.marriagebuilders.com is a good place to start and a book called "For Better and For Best" and "If He Only Knew". Christian books. Also "How to Heal the Hurt in Marriage".

not being married all I do give is what I think at this time. Society today has made divorce too easy now as it is. With the divorce rate at over half of the marriage rate that means more people breaking up that are getting married. It is too easy now to just throw in the towel. It is also too easy to get married in the first place. If a woman is being beat, threatened or abused (or the man, hey, it happens sometimes) then there should be a way of divorce being approved but if it is just, hey he doesn't do it for me anymore, she got fat, he snores yada, yada, yada then there should be mandatory counseling, seperation time, mediation and then if nothing else seems to work the big "D". Affairs should be punnished (I sleep around but not EVER with a married man or woman) publically. Make the punishment something to be avoided. right now it is too easy, opps you slept with someone, divorce. if there are kids in the marriage then there is a whole other issue at hand. Some marriages could have been saved with a lot of effort on both parts, some can't be and divorce was what was required. Just my thought on it.

You got a lot of really good answers here. It is all true. God abhors divorce. It has only given becasue of mankinds sinful nature and hard-heartedness.

We are supposed to be a couple, One-Man & One-Woman.

It is unfortunate that you friend feels trapped. But, we are taught and instructed to think soberly, and wisely about the decision to marry some-one, that we should not do it hastely, or light-hearted. This is a covenant, that is broken only by death or infidelity.

Now, here is the loop-hole. If the guys wife does not know Jesus Christ as her personal Saviour, and she wants to leave him, then she is free to do so. Then after that time if he so chooses then he can re-marry. But, his first, mission is to try to really make his marriage work.

There is a scripture that states: All things work together for the good of those that love the Lord and are called according to his purpose through Christ Jesus."

Maybe there are some life lessons that this man and woman need to learn, and this marriage might be what teaches them both the life lessons that they need to learn.

Maybe the guy is being drawn closer to God through prayer, and a more intimate relationship with him becasue of this situation.

Maybe, this man will lead this woman and prayerfully in the future his child to Christ. Which is what God wants anyway.

We are told in the Bible that "He(God) wishes that none would persish."

So, tell him to pray hard, and alot. Stay in the scripture. Watch out for temptations. Continue to love God with all, his heart, mind, soul, body. God already knows what the outcome is going to be, we have to just be patient enough to see what great thing he is going to do throughout the process.

Well I'm a minister, i normally do not answer religious type questions but here you go, my opinion...First of all take God out of this, this man married this woman 10 years ago, they have a kid...He had a choice in the beginning as a free thinking human being, he choose to marry her. Now he can not and should not try and make this as "God wants him to have a marriage to a woman he actually loves". Sorry this is a lame excuse, a cop out. Now maybe if he found God now he can invite his wife to church and join him in this adventure. Its funny you wont believe how many times this same sort of situation happens...One finds religion and the other spouse doesn't, puts a big wedge between them. They need to figure out how to make this work...Are you a female? because if so i find this odd his telling you this, there may be more to his agenda here.

IF your friend were as devout as he says he is, then he'd realise that God does not recognize divorce. Remember what's said during the marriage ceremony.." 'til death us do part". AND the Minister/Priest saying "what God has joined together, let no man put asunder".

A great actor by the name of Spencer Tracy was a devout Catholic; was married with children, but refused to divorce his wife because of his strong belief in his Catholicism.; HOWEVER for years and years, he carried on an affair with Katharine Hepburn. I think that to be somewhat hypocritical in my books...professing to be so devout, yet committing adultery. Your friend is in a sticky situation where the religion is concerned. If he strongly thinks a divorce would go against God, then he should give serious thought as to what he wants to do. You say he married the woman because she was pregnant. That's never a good reason to marry.

Good luck.

I think God would be more upset with him spinning a tale to fit his version of why he got married in the first place. He was under NO obligation to marry the woman (heck he does not want to be married to her now, so what's different). He claims she trapped him by getting pregnant? Last time I checked it was unprotected sex that led to pregnancy, so he was a player in that game too. So this guy blames the pregnancy and marriage on this woman and wonders were the love is??? I guess that was another little issue he had back then, having sex with someone you don't even care about.

Sorry, but this guy needs to quit blaming everyone else for his problems and realize he created them and must live with the consequences.

My feeling is that a marriage is a contract between you, your spouse and God. That you are saying before Him that you will stay with this person throughout your whole life. Whether he loves the woman or not, he created a child with her and married her. Unless there is a real problem I don't believe he ought to get divorced and then try and turn it around and say that God is telling him to do so, or that he doesn't feel it's what God wants him to do.

Divorce is not permissible. Christians get divorced all of the time, even though it's an abomination to God. The church used to forbid divorce. But people say "times change."

Funny how times DON'T change when it comes to gay marriage, but that's not your question.

Your friend made a commitment. He cannot leave his wife and marry you and still be a good Christian. He's right. Divorce is against God. He promised "til death do us part."

Sorry, as I know that this is not what your friend wants to hear, but this clearly does not fall into the scriptural grounds for divorce in the Bible.

He made a covenant with this woman and has a kid by her. Regardless of being "trapped", he had sex with her & made a baby and he did the right thing by marrying her.

He is obligated to honor this covenant relationship "for better or worse". He should focus his energy on praying for God to make this marriage a happy one and bless it.

It's not really about what he thinks is fair or makes him happy--it is about obedience to God, and God expects hiim to honor this commitment.