how can i spice up my sex life with my wife... i am not looking for threesomes or anything kinky like that?

try asking her what her fantasy is then try living it out

I would start small and share your fantasies during sex, it is usually a little harder to break women out of there shells because society conditions them to be good girls but be patient if this is the case and she'll come around. Go on line and buy some books or games that involve role playing and fantasies (A Hot Affair With Your Partner is a decent board game) and try some sex toys and books on improving technique. There are also videos she can buy that instruct her to give a great strip tease or watch porn together then mimic what the stars are doing, just try something new every month or so and it should keep the fires burning and allow you both to open up to each other. When you become more comfortable discussing fantasies and wish to explore further you both can go to an adult dating site, look at the profiles of people looking for threesomes or other couples to swing with and decide if any of this is right for you. When and if you both decide to turn a fantasy into reality then do your homework and proceed with caution.

Same...it takes alot of work to keep things spiced up in a relationship....have you discussed this with her yet? She may surprise you and come up with a few good ones herself...:) You could try going on a weekend trip somewhere I find that when were outside of the house things seem a little different and more exciting...just a thought..

O.K....you are a man on a mission. First of all, you should make what I call "date night". Hire a sitter, if you have kids, and take her our for dinner, and then to a motel for three hours. Also, take her away for a bed and breakfast weekend. Arrange for flowers in the room...champagne and chocolate covered strawberries. Take walks...have candlelight dinners and then romance her in the bedroom. Also....make her feel special by you taking the reins of the romantic night by carressing her, kissing her all over, perform oral sex on her...not asking for it in return...make her night special..then intercourse the last few minutes...It is mostly about intimacy..which maybe you both have forgotten about....Just a few things to think about....that's all. Good Luck and don't give up...always make your wife feel special with attention, romantic kisses....and carresses....

My husband doesnt like kinky either, but he does like to try new things. Different positions, different touches, different locations. We have engaged ourselves into trying what we can that we are both comfortable with. One sure fire way to really get ideas is to get books on it. You and your wife can look at them together and through your laughter decide on some things that wouldnt be bad to try. Then it is private, non kinky and keeps you excited.

Foreplay is important to both men & women. Think of fun things. The alphabet game- kiss each other's body parts that start with each letter of the alphabet. If you're embarrassed, don't even say the name, just kiss that body part. We giggled the whole time & had lots of fun. Relaxing is important. Role playing might be a good idea.

slow down. When you have been together for a while you get to know all of her hot spots and tend to go right to them to try to get her off. Well its not a sprint, try to make it a marathon. Start out slow, back rub, feet rub... Try to avoid all of her hot spots for an hour. Work yourself around them with your hands and mouth. Then when you finally get to th things that work best, they will work even better.

I'm going throught he same thing!!! The sad thing is, we've been married for only 2 years. I never thought sex could get soo boring!!!

Build up your relationship which means finding to take some time together.

try blindfolding her and tying her hands to the bed with loose scarves..tell her to make believe you're someone else. No harm, no foul.

i was hoping someone would post some good ideas cause im in the same boat you are.