A married female colleague...?

It sounds to me she's having problems at home, maybe not getting enough attention from her husband, and she's reaching out to you for that attention. You're nice to her and you pay attention to her so she's going to crave that male attention that she's not getting at home but you need to talk to her and let her know that you'll be there for her when she needs a friend but that's it. I know you don't want to hear how wrong it is to go into an affair but I know when you've got someone reaching out to you, it's hard. Just be strong and be that friend that she needs.

She is unhappy in her home. She probably sees you as a safe way to explore flirting because you're good friends and she knows you won't make a move. So while she maybe toying with the idea of having someone other than her husband, she is not committed to the idea 100% and neither are you. I would tell her that these actions make you uncomfortable and suggest spending some time apart while she gets her life in order.

I have been in the same situation, more than once. You have to make it clear the relationship will not go farther than that of friend and colleague. Explain the reasons why; she is married, it's not within your belief system to cheat with an other's wife, and that it would damage the careers of all who are involved. Use reason and do not be sympathetic. It is just too dangerous.

It sounds to me like she is vulnerable right now and looks to you as more than a colleague.If you pursued it you could probably become involved in an affair ,but often ,affairs get terribly messy.

You need to ask yourself what you are willing to do with YOUR life.Do you want to be on the bad end of that deal or what?

do the right thing.

If she's having problems at home, get her to divorce the hubby then you to can live happily ever after :)

If you do the wrong thing and take the affair, the "doing it" part will be great and really hot, but the guilty part after it will far-out way what happened in the bedroom. It's not worth it.

She may not be thinking at all. She just knows that she is unhappy in her current situation and when she is with you, your company sort of relieves that misery for her. I really don't think she is thinking she wants to have an affair, but she does lean on you too much for emotional support. She is already having an emotional affair, but maybe in her eyes only having sex is cheating so it's OK to her to use her as her emotional crutch.

How you handle this is all up to you. I'm not going to preach....

She is a lonely women who is looking for attention in all the wrong places

or

She is a big flirt and get her rises out of flirting with men.

or

She is someone that likes to be the center of attention and does what ever it tkes to have your attention on her!!

Either way you should stay far away from sluts like that

She's wants an affair-and is waiting for you to make the move by giving you all the cues.

DO NOT GO THERE. DO NOT allow her to whine and discuss her personal life with you anymore. From now on, keep EVERYTHING strictly on a PROFESSIONAL WORK environment level ONLY. NO alcohol, drugs, or "private time" together. When out of town on business, DO NOT spend ANY time alone with her.

IF you value your JOB, and especially your SANITY, GET OUT OF THIS NOW - you have been warned!!!

Just keep going there many women out there with less baggage and her husband could be a fully blown nut case.