Have you ever rsvp'd to child's birthday party and then not show up?

Things like that happen all the time. But it also happens w/ grownups. I had a friend who cancelled so many plans with me. Our last plans were dinner the day my daughter was leaving on a long trip; I told her I needed to be distracted. She kept cancelling and then confirming. This went back and forth several times. On the day we were supposed to go out her husband called around 11am to cancel for that night. I emailed her I was disappointed especially as I had been there for her. I have not heard since.

There was another time when I made plans for my son and another boy to have a play date. She said we should pencil it in. I tried to call her the day before to confirm but I couldn't get in touch w/ her. The day of our playdate, her son went home with another boy. When I called her to find out what happened, she said in a very condescending tone: "Don't you remember we just penciled it in?" I thought common decency would have been to contact me when plans changed.

In any case, you need to allow for at least 5 no-shows for every party and some surprise shows who never rsvp'd.

That is extremely rude and inconsiderate of them. I put all invitations on the fridge and RSVP as soon as I know either way weather my kids can go or not. Then I certainly make sure my child is there if I say he will be.

I can also not believe the amount of people that do not RSVP. I hate having to ring parents at the last minute to ask weather their kids are coming or not. SO RUDE!

Not likely but you could give her the benefit of the doubt and plan to include her in the guests but not do anything special thinking she is showing up. Her pattern of behavior says she will not show. It's her prerogative to accept or decline an invitation. It may not be right but perhaps she feels odd about it; kind of a "his and mine" point of view. Does your dad come without her? Have you asked her why? Have you personally called to invite her and actually said "We hope that you will come with Dad"? People do funny things.

I agree - that is totally rude. If I RSVP to anything I put it on the calendar and show up - only a big family emergency will prevent me from going and even then, I call the family and let them know that we wont be attending. Its just common curtesy.

No i would always let them know if i can't make it but it has happened to me and all that i can do is not invite those people again...i know it's not fair on the kids but that's up to the mother then to explain why they have not been invited to the party.

I have but things came up. I rsvp like a month before then something came up and i couldn't go

To me, this is JUST PLAIN RUDE. These people should be blacklisted. May then they might get the message.

happens all the time. so now i have parties just for my immediate family. its less stress and less of a hassle and of course, less money yet more personal.

I would never do that! If my kid was sick I would obviously not go. But I would call before the party, and apologize profusely! ~

those bitches