What do I do? Please help.?

I agree with Charisma. I would do a drive by the coffee shop just to have peace of mind. It was wrong what he did but in return, you don't want to ruin your vaccation.Vent off to others as much as you can so you wont feel like blowing up when you see him. I know that when you first see him, you will be furious, just try to relax yourself beforehand. I would still bring it up to him, but after the holiday. Just so he knows that you are bothered by his sneakiness.. Just keep in mind though, the wicked witch has gone!! lol, try to put a smile on your face. Think of the lovely holiday that is well deserved that you'll be having. You put money into this and you want to enjoy it!! Keep a happy face sweety. Men can be jerks sometimes!

It doesnt sound like there is necessarily any big issues... but it would bother me too. On many levels. You have to be careful if you mention it to him... he will want to know why you are reading his emails. He knows how you feel about it though and should have mentioned it to you. Its a tough one. You will probably have to bring it up evenutally... what will make your vaca worse? Confronting him before and getting it over with with the possibilty of tension on vacation, or waiting to confront him until after and letting it eat at you the whole time?? I know... neither sound good, but unfortunately I think those are your only options right now. Any reason you might "coincidentally" happen to be in the coffee shop at the same time?? Just a thought. Good luck and God bless.

You have every right to be upset and i totally understand its not correct for him to do this to you and less keep it as a secret. If i where you i would just calmly talk to him about this and say look i wanted to talk to you and ask you why you kept this from me i am so upset that you hid it from me. I would rather hear something from you than from someone El's why? Then you can ask him or tell him that your ex is leaving and moving away so you are going to go have dinner with him see how he would like it. Or if you think that its totally going to ruin your vacation keep quite till you get back but don't even bother going with it on your mind or it bothering your whole time during vacation it will suck for you .Good luck.

*Mother of 2 year old girl and 28 weeks pregnant. Married for 4 years...

ok, it is possible for people to be divorced and still friends. hes hiding it because he knows it upsets you. what you need to do is realise

1- they are divorced. they may be friends but have already decieded thats the best it will be.

2- hes with you. and your going on a wonderful vacation together. i wouldnt mention it and spoil the vacation.

when you get home if you want to sit him down and dicuss it you can . but... as i said he hid it from you , for you, so you wouldnt be upset.

i went out with this guy for 3 years, i met his ex wife. we were all friends and even did things together. she was very nice. i didnt feel the least bit thretened by her. and after 3 years when we broke up. we stayed it touch and i met his new wife and we all got along fine.

i think you are reading too much into his relationship with his ex. you might want to actually get to know her. remember , hes with you now. thats what he wants.

If they don't have kids together - they have no business MEETING eachother for anything.......I'd be taking the afternoon off and stopping by their meeting spot by surprise and letting him explain himself...............he is being dishonest honey - you need to nip it in the butt NOW or it's only going to get worse...........

and as far as your weekend being ruined - I think it already is - if you don't say anything it'll be on your mind all weekend and if you DO say something it will end up in an argument.......

I'd also like to question why YOU - his WIFE would not be invited along too? Just because you're preggo doesn't mean you can't have a social life...........sounds like a shady operation........and clearly your "Spidey Senses" are tingling for good reason........

Just ask him how his day was and what he did. If he doesnt fess up, ask how the ex wife is. If he still doesnt tell you, tell him you read his email and ask if he did meet up with her, because he may just cancel at the last minute. Does he have kids with her? If so, then I dont see a problem with them meeting, they are obviously divorced for a reason, and its actually a good thing they can get along. I know so many people, including myself, that have horrible relationships with their ex husband/wife....

I would not say anything and keep your eyes open for any clue.. maybe even drive by the coffee place to see if they are actually there and if you can see how they are interacting.

Keep a watch out for clues until you know for sure what is going on.

Take care of yourself and avoid any confrontation for 11 more weeks. As it is she is moving out of town. so don't worry. If you just want to let your husband know that you know about the meeting then let him know after you have delivered.

bring it up after the vacation