Question about bridal shower and wedding thank you notes?

Writing two would show your appreciation for your personal gifts, and yours and your husband's appreciation for your joint gifts. My answer is two thank you notes.

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No, you need to send a separate thank you note for each gift. After all, your guests spent time attending and shopping for each gift. Send the shower thank you now or ASAP and then the wedding thank you notes as soon after the wedding as possible but withing a few weeks.

Q is right, I would be thrilled just to actually get a thanks, let alone 2 of them! But everyone is right, a separate thanks is the etiquette. You can make the cards yourself on line for cheap, or go shopping and get some discount ones, or go to Hallmark and get nice ones. And by the way, the old etiquette is not to have the words "thank you" emblazoned across the front of the card. It was considered tacky and cheap. Yeah, try to find one now that does not have it! Look at it this way, you will be spending less than a dollar per gift to send a thanks, and the very person that you send the nice thanks card to just might be someone who will be invited to your baby shower, or house warming party. And don't think they won't remember your kindness sending a proper thanks card. They will, and will reward you with the next gift. I know I would, and have. I gave the daughter of a friend [who does not have a lot of family, and has never met me in person, I am friends with her mother], and seated me and a male friend of her Mom in the front row of the wedding, and I sat at the head guest table. Poor thing had to cancel her outdoor wedding and move it inside. I gave her an extra $20 cause I felt sorry for her. And she was so nice to let her Mom have the front row of seating I will send her another $30 as a extra gift, she is moving to another city to continue her education. All because her Mom taught her right, and she will send thanks out. She called her Mom a couple weeks ago, upset that people will think she is bad with the delay in sending the thanks cards out, due to the move. She is getting more money from me, the day I get the card, she gets the exta money.

It is customary to write a thank you note for each gift given. The wedding and shower are two separate occasions and two separate gifts.

Eddiquite dictated you should write 2 notes, but if this was "just the girls getting together" and you you happened to get a few personal gifts, then you could probably get away with one.

Since you were concerned enough to even ASK us, I say go with your gut, you will know what to do.

They were two separate gifts for two separate occasions. I think you should write two. They will appreciate it. Look at it this way, if you just write one, you may offend or you may not. If you write two, you will either fulfill expectations or exceed them. I think its better safe than sorry.

I think you should write separate thank yous because you'll want to thank them for attending each function as well as thanking them for the gift.

Yes, you write them separately. They made the effort to get two gifts, you do two.

You should write two, as they were two separate occasions. It seems silly, I know, but one should come from just you (with a shower theme) and one should come from you and your future husband (wedding theme).

Happy writing!