shall I have my first child at 19? too young?

Wait until you have accomplished your other dreams. You have plenty of time to have a child. It is too tough to try to raise a child at 19 years old.

This guy has only been seeing you for 7 months and he is already planning to have a child with you? Doesn't that sound a bit needy to you? It certainly does to me. He needs to have a good career and be financially stable enough to provide a good separate home of his OWN (not a temporary place at his parents house) and have a future planned out before he takes on a child. He does not even know you well enough to be thinking about you as a mother. How about learning about you as a person first??? You would be making a grave mistake, that you will regret for the rest of your life, if you give up your personal goals.

Don't say that you would go back later, because it is very hard to raise a child and go to school, emotionally, mentally and financially.

I am much older than you, and I had my first child at 18. My daughter and son are grown now, but I could still kick myself in the butt for making such a foolish mistake, even though I love my children dearly. They even questioned me recently about why I gave up on my education and dreams to have a child. My only answer was this, "I was young, foolish, and I thought I was in love." True be known, I was just not thinking, just living for the day. When the marriage broke up, I was saddled with children, and no career to support them. My ex did his very best to contribute very little to the support. I worked two and three jobs to make ends meet, and give them a decent life.

I went back to school in my late forties, but it is hard to hire on with a company when you tell them you are already 40 and just earned your degree. They figure you are too old, and have no experience. Now, I work under people that could be my children. I will never achieve what I wanted, all because I made one stupid mistake.

My children have learned from my mistake, and I hope you will also.

Good Luck. You can't get the years you waste back, and you are only young once!!!

Stick to your plan.

You've only been with your partner for a short while and you'll have more security if you finish University first. If you're still with the same partner at that point then you'll know it's a more stable relationship, plus by that point you might have gotten married which would get rid of some of your fears and make it less likely that he'll run off if he decides he doesn't want a baby after all.

You can have children up to quite a high age, so waiting till your 26 doesn't stop you from having lots of children.

You shouldn't really be having a child at a point where you'll still want to go to university right after, classes and coursework take up a lot of time so someone else would have to look after the baby which means you lose out on time with it growing up, or miss out on going to Uni and getting a good job after.

I don't think you should have a baby just yet. Your relationship with your boyfriend can change at anytime and you need to make sure that your baby is brought up in a stable environment. You never know how it'll be once the baby's born and so I think you should wait a while or if you think your are 1000% sure that U'll stay together forever then you should get married. However this could be too soon. Finish with your education you'll be happy you did and be firm with your botfriend- imagine this: you get pregnant, he can't take the pressure , you break up and your a single mum with not enough qualifications. This may sound harsh but you have to think about it. Don't worry about lots of children there'll be enough time.lol.

It's only as complicated as you make it hun. Stay in school, you guys haven't even been together for 5 years, you need to make sure your relationship is stable enough to bring a child into it. A baby is a big deal, it's not like a pet. The idea might sound good, but put it to the test and you'll be wishing you waited.

A good way to find out what it's like is for you and your boyfriend to babysit for a few days, a newborn / infant. 3am feedings, diaper changings, screaming, headaches, throwing up on you.

At 19, you're still a teenager and way too young. Live your life, most importantly, pursue your dreams in your career first. Make sure you're finanically stable and more importantly, emotionally. You'll always get so many chances to have a baby, but you only get one chance to be 19, 20, 21, etc.

The fact that you're worrying or have to question us about it means you're not ready.

Here's what you do before you make any decisions: work at a daycare. I'm serious!! I worked a daycare for 4 years and made the decision to be a stay at home mom, but by the time i left that place earlier this year I said "NO KIDS FOR 5 YEARS!!" Work at a daycare to get your baby fix for 8 hours a day, and then you can go home to do your thing, and have your own life on the weekends.

Benefits: you get paid for playing mommy, you get your kid fix, AND you're learning how to take care of and deal with pretty much every situation you will face in motherhood, but you don't have to spend every waking moment with them. As much as I wanted out by the time I left, I have never once regreted working there because for me it was like "Mommy bootcamp". I feel like I'm a lot more prepared for when the time comes.You really really really should try getting a job at a daycare before you make any final decisions. If nothing else, you'd basically be getting paid to learn how be a mom.

i think you should definitely wait! if you have doubts then it is a definite no!

there is no point in having one young and giving up your dreams, when you could wait just a few years, get a good job, have lived your life a little and will be able to give your baby a great life! do you want to regret having your baby at all? i know i wouldnt! im 20 and at uni. i have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and i am not gonna have kids untill i leave uni, have a good job and a nice place to bring up a child...... i want to give my child the best life and if i had one now it would be that...... i think the same applies to you....

and 7 months isn't long in relationship terms. if you were to commit to having a baby, thats the rest of your life..... your life stops being your own.....

they are wonderful, but alot of hard work, my sister had a baby boy at 23 and it takes up her whole day everyday and he is now 1. she wasnt going to college or had any plans so she doesnt regret it..... but my mum had us young and sort of regrets not living her life first..... which makes her feel guilty..... so don't do it to yourself.....make sure you are ready to give your life to this child! only then is it right to have one!!!!

Your original idea sounds MILES better than your boyfriends. Don't let his pressure you into something which you are not ready for now as you have not been together long and are indeed very young. Fulfil your ambitions and enjoy a bit of your life before you devote it to a baby. It sounds like you'll be a great mum when you do but I don't think it should be for a while yet.

At the end of the day .. Its up to you, if you know you can cope with it for the next 18/20 years then go ahead. Im 17 and 18 weeks pregnant, I DONT regret getting pregnant at all, but i know that im missing out on so much and will be doing for a long time!!! It kinda upsets me. Live your life to the fullest then settle down & have kids.

Good luckkkkkk x

Yes u are too young, especially since there really is no stability in your lives or relationship (at 18, 7 months is not that long, trust me).

Tell him where u stand and STICK TO YOUR PLAN. If he can't respect that, he's not worth being with anyway, and there are other men in this world, who are more than willing to wait until you are ready.

Plz, 26 is not too old to start especially when there are 40+ year old women having their 1st. Would u want to wait until 25/26 when u can AFFORD children, or 19 when u can barely take care of yourself and not finished with your education?

You should dump him, he is not considering you at all in this, you need to get your life in order jobs home etc before you have a child, you know it is too young really so you know what is best and that is not to have the baby, because money will be horribly tight, he wont be helping you, you will have no help from parents, its too much really, if you dont want to dump him then make your point about delaying it and stand your ground if he wont listen at all it is time to leave sorry.