19 year old son with bad break up?

You've been doing everything right as a mother. I'm personally an 18 year old guy.

Plus I'm supposed to be a person who can be a bit tough and I don't lack emotions. I do come to times when I'm about to try but I always try to stay strong and positive.

The thing is that he was with this girl for a long long time and now he feels like it's the end of the world. Right now he's looking into the present and it's the end of the world. I personally think he should try to look at the big picture. It's just to him like when he lost his girlfriend. It meant to him that the relationship has died as in someone just passed away.

I think what would be best for him is to keep watching him as a hawk because there have been people who broke up and actually killed themselves. I know many times it's based off the adults or in this case your 19 year olds consent. But I think just for a month you can refer him to the police to a mental clinic but it would make things worse though. He might want to kill himself in a place of rehab.

Personally you just let keep telling him the bright sides to not having a girlfriend. Plus many relationships break up in high school so you did good for making a relationship lasting for five years. But for right now I'd take all the girlfriends stuff out of his room so he isn't reminded of it. Also if he lived in an apartment with her. Plus the girlfriend is still giving his things. It might be good to ask her to throw out his things and not give it to him. Just so your son doesn't have to see the girlfriend until he feels better.

It'll be months but he should get over it once a lapse of time happens. I mean you can keep crying and crying. But eventually you can run out of energy and tears to cry. I hope I helped. But I'd have someone watch over him 24/7 if possible so he doesn't commit suicide because it is a very serious thing that I've heard that happened to tons of people.

I'm sorry the you are both going through this. That's terrible! First off, I know you love this girl(after 5 years of course you would), but you need to firm with her. She needs to get all of her stuff out of the house immediately. If it's not possible for her to do that, then at least take it all out of his room and put it in the basement. He doesn't need to be reminded of her on a constant basis. She's being cruel by not giving him any explanation and then showing up randomly to grab 2 or 3 things. She needs to take several boxes full of stuff if she's going to show up and she needs to call and come by when he isn't home so he doesn't have to deal with the pain of seeing her and realizing that it is over again and again. If he's talking suicide, keep a close eye on him. Have you asked him the full story? I'm not saying your son did anything horrible, but with the girlfriend coming around so often, it makes me wonder if maybe she was just upset with him and is wanting him to try and make things right? That could be a possibility. He deserves an explanation and some closure. He needs to ask her why, what went wrong, and then he needs to sever all ties to her if she's through with him. Good luck..I hope this helped some

I am sorry that your son is going through this difficult time in his life. Yes, you are his mother, but he is a man now and you need to let him deal with this loss in his own way. The best you can do for him right now is pray, pray and pray some more for him. Tell him that he is stronger than he realizes. There is so much to life than a relationship.

God created him for a specific purpose, he has gifts that he can share with the world. Tell him he is not alone, people break up everyday and life goes on. Sometimes we have to meet the wrong people to allow God to present us to the right person. He has a lot of work to do. He has to get over this girl and start working on changing for the better so that when the right girl comes along he will have something to offer her.

Tell him to pray and as Jesus for strength to endure this loss. It will make him stronger in the end. God bless you and your son.

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well one. maybe you should talk to the girl. say look you dont love him he needs time away from you and if you keep coming back here hes just going to get nmore and more upset. she needs to come to the house and take every thing she owns and leave. because if she keeps coming its like a tease to him because hes just going to see her and keep beiong remibnded of the girl who he lost and cant have.

MAYBE she needs to explain to him more in depth of WHY. instead of saying oh hey im not in love with you anymore..BYEE.

also maybe you should get him some type of therapy if hes threatening to commit suicide and its really as bad as you say then maybe some outside help will work.

i know its hard but all you can do is contiunue doing what ur doing now supporting hinm itlll take time 5 yrs is a long love to heal but eventually hell move on and be happy

Wow. That does sound bad. Do not tell him to get over it. He's going to have to grieve properly. They say there are a steps to loss, and he'll have to go through them. I would encourage him anyway how to try to do new things. It's hard when your whole world walks away from you. Your doing a great job by letting him cry on your shoulder. If he talks suicide though he may need some therapy. Someone to talk to.

He's a big boy. My sister got married when she was 19 to a guy very much older than her. They are still married 35 years, 3 children and 3 grandchildren later. Your son's girlfriend's mother has just as much reason to worry. Look at it from her point of view. A 31 year old man, never married, going with a 19 year old. If you were this woman's mother, you would be worried SHE was making a mistake. Don't judge her before you know something about her. My sister was not going to dump her much older boyfriend and she was willing to settle down wtih the right man. Maybe this woman is too.

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first what were u thinking letting ur son date at 14 ....he should be into sports or friends or just being a teenage ..i have two boys they don't date until 18 1 it school 2 is girls

I can kinda see why she left, I'd leave too. He'll get through it, I know it's hard on you both, but he needs to grow up. I don't know the best way to help him do that though.