What restrictions do you put on college aged kids who still live at home?

My child will be graduating from high school soon. We'll have a few restrictions on him that are really being placed on him because we're a family and we expect him to act a certain way around the rest of the kids. Most of the things will be things I would expect out of a room mate as well.

No overnight guests, no staying out late and waking people up when he comes in, no violent video games left lying around the house, and no eating in his room or otherwise being dirty.

Oh, and if he lives here over the age of 21, no alcohol in our home. We're not teetotallers but I do have other children to consider.

I don't care who he dates, but she's not spending the night.

I lived at home for a little while while I was in college and didn't have any restrictions or rules. But, I was respectful and let them know most of the time what i was doing and when i'd be back. If i did come home really late (which wasn't often) I was quiet so i didn't wake them up. I also cleaned up after myself and helped around the house. I would hope that if you're in college you're mature enough not to need too many rules.

I think that if your parents are paying your fees and living expenses then they really do have the right to design lots of rules. Curfews and such are more about the study time at this point in your life than any desire to control your social life.

Also if they object to sex before marriage, alcohol etc then they do have the right to say you can't use their money and their house for those purposes. If it is really a problem then the grown child should get a job and pay their own way.I lived out of home for all of my university career because of just these sorts of issues and my parents and I had a great relationship during that period. If I had been living with them and following their rules it may have been a different story.

You have to decide what means most to you. Your money or your freedom and accept the consequences which will come with either choice.

Living with your parents for an extra 4 years is hard on everyone, but it is very expensive for them and they deserve to have their wishes respected while you are there.

Good luck in school and in life!

When I was at home, there were a few simple "rules" Although, I never considered them restriction.

1) Be home at a decent hour (1am or so), call if you're going to be late or are staying out at a friend's house.

2) Be respectful and help around the house.

3) Always have a job. If you're home for the summer or winter break, you should be working for spending money.

4) No boyfriends or girlfriends sleeping in their house.

I recently graduated from college and I still live at home. Similar rules apply and I'm OK with that. I don't get charged rent, because my parents are financially comfortable enough and don't really feel strained. I work full-time now. They prefer I save my money, pay down my student loans and save for a downpayment on a house of my own. Although, if I quit my job and started mooching; you better bet my free living situation would be over. My parents don't care that I live with them, as long as I'm being productive in my life and saving for my future.

LOL no way de veras (Spanish words ignore them :p) ....... Well for me NONE !!!!!!!!!!

I am old enough to know what is good and bad for myself and my mother knows that very well. I would not admit such restrictions at this point in my life either, but seriously my mother only recommends stuff that is academics related, for everything else I can do whatever I want, but once again I know what I want quite well AND I have always been a guy that doesn't need anyone telling him what's not convenient, I have always known it. No one has to tell me to use condom if I decide to do it when I have a gf (which I don't have blah....) and I can take her to my house any day at any time. I am alone 90% of the time at my house so it is like living by myself really. No one ever had to put a sticker on my head with "don't smoke" "don't do drugs""don't drink" etc etc, I mean they sure told me about it, but I never cared about those things, and never will... and seriously anyone who did/does wasn't very smart because they are killing their health and their pocket ....... I also decided that I wasn't gonna cheat and screw up with girls in high school unless they were right for me, unfortunately all the right ones either had a bf already or were not too interested .... to bad another one will get the treasure then .... anyways back to your Q: so yeah I guess I don't need any restrictions because I do what is right anyways; BUT I would not admit restrictions either, I am 19 and I am at my house, everybody else has no restrictions at the house so I am not going to have any either. Also, I decide who I go out with, and yes you guessed it, I also know quite well who is right for me and who is not..... cute nice smart girls are what I want, forget about the sluts.....

When I am a parent I will not put restrictions I will give advice though. However, I will teach my son(s)/daughter(s) well since the beginning SO you bet they won't need "restrictions" to know what's right or wrong.

EDIT: We are a Hispanic family though, I am guessing that it might be different for others, may be, I don't know.

Also, there is only a single "restriction" for me: I have to do well at all my classes, that is ALL that is asked of me.

Yeah I was in college and living at home and didn't have a curfew... I was always sure to let my parents know where I was in case something happened to me.

My parents wanted to charge me rent..but I told them if I was going to pay rent I might as well move in with my boyfriend. LOL I didn't think it was right since I was trying to make ends meet, paying for my car, college and holding a part time job. I was very responsible.

I guess my only real rule was not having boyfriends spend the night... I felt weird about them being in my room anyway with the door closed so I don't think I ever did that while my parents were around..anyway. LOL

I guess rules were more understood ... I never did anything really to upset them in FRONT of them..so they never really cracked down... except maybe a dirty look from my dad when I'd get home from a nightclub in time to shower and go to school while he ate his morning breakfast. OOOPS!

My son goes to college that is about an hour away from home, so he is home part time, He doesn't have a curfew, I do appreciate it when he buys some of the groceries that he is going to eat, and I am really happy when he picks up after himself, (he is such a slob sometimes).

Those sound like good rules. My sons girlfriend just started spending the night on weekends, It was kind of weird at first, but they are very serious and we like her alot.

Well, I dont have any college aged kids yet, mine is only 3, but I would probably have the same rules that your parents have. I think that they are pretty fair. The only thing I may add is to have common courtesy, for example dont stay out til 3 in the morning and come back in all loud, I dont mind the staying out til 3 part, just dont want to be woken up, and no phone calls to the house phone all hours of the night.

My mom is dealing with this with my brother.

Her rules are if your in school full time he is fine to stay with her.

He has to maintain a certain GPA, and has to clean up after himself, watch his mouth around the family.

He doesn't pay anything because he doesn't work. He has a gf that comes over once i a while. No restrictions there really. I don't know of course because I have my own home now.

Also he can't smoke in the house.

He has to call if he is not coming home.

I am not old enough to have college kids but I can tell you what my friends mom did. She set the rules as no coming in after midnight because it would make the dogs bark and wake-up the others in the house. No having friends over without asking because it was their house and they wanted to know who was going to be coming by. No parties. No boyfriends spending the night but they could come over just not spend the night. Those were the main rules she had told me about.