Why is it so hard for young people to understand that older women like sex too?

Rofl...PC, I love you. Hubby's gonna be too worn out after ur anniversary/vacation to go back to work, lol!

Well, here's my opinion since everyone else is tossing theirs around...

I think it's a combination of two things 1) cultural stereotyping, and 2) social conditioning.

It has changed over the past few years thanks to some of the "aging" female actresses, musicians, and well known media personalities standing their ground and refusing to put on cotton granny dresses and sensible flat heeled shoes. Some of the cosmetic companies and others that cater to female buyers have finally realized that they make a lot of their money from women who are over 40, so gradually, they have started to include older, and "real" women in their ads - instead of made up 14 -18 year olds. They still have a lot of room for improvement, but there has been a gradual shift.

Socially, as one of the other answerers said, it has traditionally been a taboo for women to be openly sexual. Most who did so were quickly labeled harlots or floozies. "Ladies" simply did not conduct themselves as sexual creatures, and if they did, they darn sure didn't do so openly.

I realized how deeply that socialization has been drilled into our society while answering a couple of other questions recently. In one, several answers referred to women who wear high heels as sluts, and in another, a male responder to another male question (to women) about cleavage commented that any male over age 30 KNEW that all women who displayed cleavage were cheap sluts...

Lol...SO...my deductions from all of the above are as follows:

Once again...the tides they are a turning...SLOWLY, but turning nonetheless.

That discomforts some people a whole lot.

Many people get upset when they can't fit people (especially older women) into a nice little categorical box.

They buy into the stereotyping, and they get hammered by the social conditioning in every direction. When something falls outside their comfort zone, or what they've been taught to think, they reject it, or attempt to ridicule it.

I think the changes will continue, and as more women age, and like you (and me:), refuse to pretend, it will become more common, less "shocking," and more acceptable.

As for all these over 40 men out there who have this ongoing issue with being unable to find hot, sexy women their age...lol...NEWSFLASH...it's because many of the hot, sexy ones are now with YOUNGER, hot, sexy men who don't have as many hang ups and preconceptions and judgements about how a woman "should" be or how an older women is...

I'm with you PC...I just don't know where the heck these guys are finding all these asexual females, lol - My bf is military, and training for a marathon, and he says I'm a better work out than a 10 mile run!:p

I'm 46 (and my pic is current, lol, not from 15 years ago) and jeez, maybe I've got it all wrong, but I swear I just don't see myself sitting in a rocking chair knitting when I look in the mirror...well, truth be told, I'd luv to learn to knit, but that's another story...

In the mean time, keep on rockin' hubby's world!

32 years and counting...and he's still coming back for more!

Now that's what experience will do for you! Practice makes perfect!

"My question is, why is there this pervasive idea that a woman MUST have an ulterior motive for sex?" It's a stereotype. that's it. Many women do use sex as leverage over a man usually to do with money. Do all women? No of course not. Same way men are seen as violent sex. Why? A stereotype, because a hunge number of men are violent. Also male sexuality is eggsagerated to look like a "tough" "macho man". So males celebrate having sex, women are more discreet this makes us think ma;es enjoy sex much more. Also testosterone is know to control libido and because males have 50x more T it's assumed males sex drive is 50x more, when realisticaly the female brain receptors are just more sensitive to T levels so it probably balances out.

Ms Crone! Three times a day, EVERY day? Do you have any unattached sisters? LOL

You know, I never quite understood that idea that older ladies should NOT have sex but it's not only acceptable for older men to do so. In fact older men who DO are looked upon as "Heroes".

Now as for me. I will be with a woman no matter what her age, no matter what her looks, no matter what her abilities or disabilities. As long as she is willing, ready and able to be intimate without putting either or us in the hospital, it's ALL good. Every person needs love and the rest is irrelevant to that. We are ALL one major accident away from being butt ugly, missing a limb, or becoming disfigured in some way or another. Just because that happens doesn't mean that the person suddenly loses their ability or need for a loving relationship, and that includes a passionate physical relationship as well.

Brightest Blessings,

Raji the Green Witch

Dear Prairie Crone...Sorry that you have made it to crone at such a young age. I myself am 51 and still having my monthly visitor as well as All of the sex I can handle. I married a younger man just for such occasions! However I think that there are those who have some sort of reverse Oedipus complex that can not handle mature woman having sex. However that being said "Rock On Sister"!!!! Peace&LOTS of Love be with you...~M~

Because they haven't been around. There is quite a hell of a lot that young people don't know about older people. And if and when the day comes when the world is run and controlled by young people, I only have one piece of hope: . . . . that I am dead and gone when that day happens.

Sorry dear , but though there may be exceptions once ( The Majority Of ) women pass 40 the libido takes a big hit.

How do I know this ? you may ask ?

Well I'm a 46 year old man and I know If I want to get laid on a regular basis ( 4 or more times a week) the ideal age range is 30 -38.

I know this from years of research and practical application.

******** I could be wrong , but I can't help but believe I have dated and had sex with a lot more women (both above and below the age of 40 ) than you have . *******

Do you really give a schitt what they think? I don't.

See, someday, they're going to be old, too, and then they will consider themselves lucky to be getting any sex at all. Fact is, many, many men remain married to and in love with their wives throughout their lifetimes. Everybody doesn't want to bang a young hottie who has no brains, no values yet, no point of view, thinks celebrities are hot and has nothing to say.

I don't give a damn whether they "get it" or not. They should be this lucky at this age.

ETA: people don't stop having sex as they get older. If you think they do, or you think young sex is the best sex, Mother Nature has a BIG surprise for you when you mature.

ETA#2: okay, now I understand what you meant. Two things: we do live in a youth-obsessed culture, and the people who buy into that think sex stops early. Second, I was ready to smack Mr Ryde On upside the head, but I thought about his comment. Many women do, after they've had kids, stop thinking of themselves as sexual beings and start thinking of themselves as "mothers," and "mothers" aren't supposed to be sex kittens. They're tired, their hormones may be out of whack. Their husbands may well have changed, but it's never the man's fault, is it? I can't speak for Mr. On's ex-partners, but I feel sorry for them. But he is wrong; it doesn't happen to everybody. Trust me.

Don't you know? To a lot of ultra conservative minded people, it's bad for ANY woman to like sex. Young women aren't supposed to want it because sex before marriage is sl*tty, young married women aren't supposed to like it unless their husband wants it, and older women? Well what lady would want to have sex for anything but procreative purposes. This is of course assuming she has children. And if she has no children well then she's a selfish trollop who uses birth control! Or some such nonsense

I mean that entirely as a joke, but it seems like if you are a woman in this who enjoys sex even a little bit more than what is considered "normal", you're attacked for it. But older women are most definitely given less respect than older men are in terms of sexuality. I think the reason is because we as a society have not ever been comfortable with the aging process, and therefore have never been able to appreciate the beauty and eroticism of a body that has aged naturally. It's depressing.

i believe that attitude is going to undergo changes as soon as these people realize that there are 25 year olds that appear to be 45 and there are 60 year old people that could knock their socks off! I have a friend who is so adorable all of my huisband's (that's right, I GOT MARRIED!) ask me for her # and they don't even care how old she is. The only problem is that she has the same experience with younger people as you do.And younger women, being less sure of themselves and what they like or want sexually, envy the self-assurance that only time can build.So they get a bit catty and facetious. You just do your "thang" and have fun. I surely will...

Ehh, Granny? What was that thing called "sex" again? I think I recall something about that from back in my youngin' days.

Edit: Incidentally 51 is young. That's when life is just beginning. (As far as I'm concerned I'm a kid just starting out.) You don't begin to approach old age until you pass 90. ;-)