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About friendship - What and Why?
Sorry guys I have aspergers, I never have a real friend in my entire life or maybe I do but not at the level where I can talk my feelings out. I have this confusion over how friendship is started in the first place. Do I have to talk a lot to this person, meaning increasing the frequency and the quality of the content?
The content of conversation should be light and not intellectual, sprinkled with a pinch of jokes?
I tried being nice/helpful but I realized that people end up using me.
I realize that friendship is like creating a meal, you need the right ingredients, timing, and put feeling into it.
Am I fighting God's will? God has created me with bad and good qualities. Why am I fighting to push myself to the right end of the bell curve? There are plants in the dessert, the icy snow caps, on the lush jungle floor, plants living in the dessert can be very lonely. those living on the jungle floor gets all the hot action. But God has placed them in their appropriate places. So I just have to accept who I am and being friendless. Friendlessness is my true friend.
4 Answers
- versatileLv 51 decade agoFavorite Answer
people like to talk about themselves.
they do like to laugh a bit too.
but trying to get people to laugh at themselves is bad.
Its bettter to let people talk about themself and (when its a crazy thing that happened) then tell a joke about when something like that happened to you.
its always important to show other people that you are interested in the things they like. People are all basically insecure and are afraid of rejection. If you don't reject them, they willopen up to you and become your friend.
- 1 decade ago
Dude what is with all the metaphors?!
Forget what your expectations and live through life as you do. If your lucky you'll meet some awesome people that you can relate to on the way. Sometimes you'll have your bad moments but hopefully mostly memorable ones that you cherish till you die.
Life is about experience and learning. Stick by the people who treat you well and always treat them how they treat you.
God has no say in this kinda thing. You have the choice to write your own life.
Hope this helped :)
- 1 decade ago
nooo-if God wanted you NOT to have friends, he wouldn't have you trying to make any. I assume that because you believe in God you may believe in predestination-Him knowing what will happen before you're even born-and he would not like to make you defective. Diverse, maybe, but not purposely unhappy. Like all the gays on this network-the only thing that makes us UNhappy is the opinions surrounding us. We can still fall in love and all that jazz. Just like you can find things in life besides friends-or maybe casual friends that build up to that. Like a penpal-they can't really hurt you. Try to find a good writer who's curious about another kind of lifestyle. If you're straight, a million gays might want to know what's going on.
- abbyLv 41 decade ago
aaww hun. no, God placed us on this earth for a purpose, and he placed so many of us here so that we can be here for one another. you will find your true friend when the time is right, and if you feel like you are getting close to someone, don't fight it. until you find someone, feel free to message me anytime. i promise to be here for you.
