How do I handle sibling rivalry? ?

If he can't be favourite, he will opt for being pain in the asss. Clearly he has some issues that go back at least 9 years, and you will find that when his circumstances change things will quieten - moves in with a girlfriend, gets into a shiteload of debt, crashes a car etc. Will he lift a sore paw for sympathy or just demand help? I hate to say it, but I'm only hearing one side of the story here and as much as I sympathise with your grievances, blood is thicker than water.

Failing that, find his bishop-whacking magazine stash and pretend you don't know, gradually steal them without anyone knowing and watch the panic spread. As far as I'm aware, maturity requires intellect, and there's nothing wrong with secret gradual torment in a gentle way to put the message across. I hope you find resolve with him before things go too far into adult life, because that's when real problems can begin.

I went through this with my little brother. He is a little more than 3 years behind me. We are only half brothers though. Different fathers.

Well, what you describe sounds similar to what I went through.

I stayed away from the house mostly. Avoided him.

We get along fine now. We have our moments but both of us have a general desire to keep things decent.

With my brother, he was daddy's first. He was given so much attention when he was a baby. He sought it as he got older but because his dad got overwhelmed by it, he learned to seek negative attention.

I listened to so much fighting between him and his dad.

I used to always try and talk sense into them, but they are always so prideful. No one ever wants to concede to end the fighting.

If his attempts are to get negative attention, then don't respond to it. And don't give him something more desirable in response, that will make him seek it wrongly.

Find time when things are calm, and show interest in his life.

Tell him reasons why you want a happy relationship within your family...

ask him what he wants...

try to reach an understanding, that you can remind him of when he loses sight and acts in a way that won't give him what he really wants.

He probably wants to be bigger than you. Just let him. But don't let him use abusive behavior to accomplish it. If he tries, calmly leave the situation and let him know you'll try again later when aggression is not present. If he talks mean to you, tell him your sorry, and want to make it better...

give it time. Things won't change over night. 9 years is a long time to undo.

What you do for your own relationship with him may influence your parents, and maybe his behavior towards them.

It simply takes patience and discipline, which your having will be a good example to him. And you will have these things when you resolve to make things better. He likely won't until he believes you mean it.

Don't give up.

Family is the most important people who will always be a part of your life. Your relationships with them will affect every other relationship you ever have.

just here to stop