toddler sleeping arrangement problems?

Honestly, many parents face this problem. The only way to solve it is to take her back to her bed, let her cry, and keep returning her to her bed until she learns. You can check on her when crying if you need to make sure she is okay, but really, if you do it right, it will only take about a week to get her back into her bed.

Good luck.

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I think what I'd do is put a sleeping bag on the living room floor at bed time, put a DVD (children's, but not too loud and high-action) in, and tell her, "You can watch this until you fall asleep, and then I'll put you in your nice bed." Just kind of announce it as if it's taken for granted that this is the plan (and a very nice plan at that). That would help get her used to falling asleep somewhere other than your bed.

If she wakes up and wants to be in your bed calmly tell, "Oh - some other time, but not right now. There's a cold draft coming in the window in my room."

OR - just hang in there until she's closer to three. She may be more ready to find her nice bed appealing by then.

Keep in mind that a new house is a change in itself, Two-year-olds like routine and particularly thrown off by changes. They want everything to always be done the same as they think everything always IS done. Here again, when she's closer to three she'll be getting past that.

I was thinking the same thing LisaHW said. Moving to a new home is a big change. It's a new environment for her. She may have been ready for the big girl bed, but maybe not at the same time as moving to a new home.

What if you took her shopping with you and let her pick out stuff for her new room. A special pillow or blanket for her new bed that she picked out. You could also put her bed in your room for awhile, just while she gets used to it.

A great book out there is No Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers. I read the book for babies but not for toddlers. But if it's any bit as good as the baby book, I'm sure it's full of helpful tips. I found an excerpt from it here: http://www.pantley.com/elizabeth/books/0071444912....

hope this helps!!

We went from a crib to a toddler bed, then converted to a full size bed. When we converted, I put a body pillow on the side of the bed where my son could fall off. He sleeps in it real well. Sometimes in the middle of the night, he comes into our room and we let him crawl in bed with us. But, like you, we have an octopus and don't get much sleep. Lately, I've had to tell him at bedtime what I expect of him...if you wake up at night, just go back to sleep. When it's morning time, you can grab your ducky and blankie and crawl in bed with us." He usually does pretty good when I remind him. Does she have a doll to sleep with? My son kind of "adopted" his ducky when he started sleeping in his big boy bed. I also tell him he has to sleep in his own bed except on our special night which is one night a week he either sleeps all night in our bed, or I sleep with him up in his bed. Hope this helps.

First, I'd get a rail. Then you've just got to tell her she has to sleep in her bed, and stick with it. Close her door or put a gate in her doorway. I know it's hard to just let them cry and ignore it. I go in every five minutes, tell her it's bedtime (and in your case put her back in her bed), and then leave again. It will take a while, and it will be hard, but she'll eventually get used to it. The longer she sleeps in your bed, the harder it will be. Good luck.

Maybe getting a bed with rails or something. Make her feel safe so she wont fall off. I used to be scared of death of falling off when i was little, and at some point you will just have to let her fall asleep on her own, with or without crying or mommy and daddy's help.

I'm not sure that at this age there's a way to convince her to sleep in her own bed, since she likes sleeping in yours too much. You can purchase rail guards to put onto the bed (though it won't solve your going to sleep dilema) or maybe consider putting her crib back temporarily to get her back to going to sleep w/o your presence. Then keep her in it until her routine is normal and she asks to sleep in her big girl bed. Or go with versant and put her in and let her learn to self-soothe, it'll definitely take a couple weeks to get back to routine.

put the nightlight on, set a glass of water on the bedside table, kiss the child good nite, and close the door. the child needs to learn how to self soothe to fall asleep. ignore any disturbances from the room -including pleading & crying. in a week or 2, peace will reign.

we are having the same problem..we are moving soon and i am nervous...i think i am going to take the advice of Nanny 911..if she comes into your room, dont say a word, just take her back to her own bed ....you leave,,,she will come back out and cry and say she wants to sleep with you,,,you dont say anything again, just lead her back to her room...i saw it work on TV, but HEY that's TV!! i am goign to try it bec our son is in OUR room right now..we only have a one bedroom and he falls asleep in our bed, i put him in his bed and then he comes to us in the middle of the night..i agree with your husband..so much easier to just let them stay......but hey......i need my beauty sleep!! good luck..let me know what works for you!

Either put a gate at her door or put her back in the crib.