can you be gay but not have sex with men?

I think your friend is confused. He may be having attractions to men, but apparently the thought of sex or sexual favors disgusts him so either he has a strong sense of moral responsibility to not do those things in the first place or he's simply, not gay.

PS. There are even Christians who are gay but choose not to practice it b/c they know that it's a sin.

I hope u don't take this 2 far but maybe he's lieing because he just came out a few mouths ago. He just don't want being gay bad anymore, like everybody says that gay ppl r 2 sexually active and that 2men sexually attracted 2 each other is bad and stuff. So he's probley saying " I'm gay but I'm not haveing sex with men". Just 2 try 2 fit in with u guys. He probley doesn't want u guys 2 think about what he does behind doors because ppl will think like OMG. You know how it is. I mean honestly what would be the point of being gay? There's obviously his hormones are attracted 2 them. If he wasn't sexually attracted with them he wouldn't be dateing them.

Being gay doesn't just mean that you have sex with people of the same sex; it means that you'd rather be intimate (both physically and emotionally) with somebody of the same sex. So, if he's not ready to have sex, all it means is: he's not ready to have sex.

However, anybody can be asexual. This means that you still love and show affection towards certain people, but you're just not interested in sex. So, if this makes any sense, maybe he's an asexual gay?

He could be a gay celibate person. One question I have though is how exactly does he know that he's gay? Does he just not want to have sex or does he not find men attractive and yet for some other reason thinks that he's gay? A bit confusing.

i'm a bisexual guy and that i like females and their bodies yet gay men comprehend the thank you to delight and artwork your c*ck greater advantageous than a woman ever could. whilst it involves oral intercourse men are greater perfect at giving head and comprehend what feels good and the thank you to do it and an anus is tighter than a vagina making it greater pleasing. i think of being sexually in touch with the comparable intercourse will continually be greater greater perfect on condition that the two companions are conscious of a minimum of one yet another's bodies no rely if this is guy and guy or female and female. immediately intercourse is nice yet gay intercourse is super. can not communicate for every physique tho despite the fact that if this is what i think of.

It is as easy as being straight, but not having sex with the opposite sex. Just because a person chooses not to engage in sexual activities - that does alter their own, fundamental sexual orientation.

Of course you can. You could be female. But I believe they call them 'lesbians'.

Seriously though, you could, since being gay is not about sex per se, but about your attraction to others. There are plenty of 'gay' men who are attracted to men but have never acted on it for one reason or another. Many of them have even settled down, married a woman (whom they may not be attracted to, but is a good match in other ways), and had children, becoming good husbands and fathers along the way, and never revealing to anyone they are gay.

On the other hand the situation you paint is different. This young man is 26, out of the closet, and dating. You say he has not discussed this with his partner? I would have to say this young man has some issues , and he needs to sit and discuss them with his chosen partner rather than discussing them with everyone else around him.

How would you feel if you were the partner in the situation? Everyone knows all about your (lack of a) sex life, and the reasons for it, except you. When you find out that everyone knew all along wouldn't you feel hurt...? betrayed...?

Were I in your shoes, I would advise my friend that he needs to speak to his partner, and that I was not comfortable hearing anymore about it until he does. Give him a deadline to bring his partner up to speed on what's going on, and if he doesn't meet that deadline, sit down with the partner and let him know. Be prepared for backlash as human beings have this way of wanting to kill the messenger when there is news we don't want to hear... but if you are REALLY his friend, you owe it to him to be as open and honest with him as you would want him to be with you were your positions reversed.

It's not the act itself that defines homosexuality (or heterosexuality for that matter). It's the MENTAL state. If he's attracted to guys that means he's gay. If he doesn't want to engage in sex, that's celibacy. Being attracted to guys is a mental predisposition that he can't control (much like heterosexuality); being celibate is a conscious decision on his part NOT to engage in sex.

Its really strange to come out and not intend to have sex. Coming out is a big decision and hard to do. You can be gay and not have sex, just like if you're a virgin you are still straight.

Why date and not have the benefits? Gay men also can date like straights and not have sex right away, but eventually its expected. Maybe he's not ready right now and needs a little time. If he meets a really hot guy that likes him he'll be ready to do it.

I do not know what being gay has to do with it

many people go through life without having sex and that has nothing to do with being straight/gay or anything else

Sex is fun, but not the relationship. He may have a number of reasons that he does not wish to go there, and they are his. Not everything must be told to "dates" and plenty of married couples don't have sex.

My parents never did, or if they did, yuck!!