why do ppl look down on single moms or pity them?

DIP...I couldn't agree more...I have been raising my kids alone now for the last 13 years...my situation is a little different than most as I am not divorced but widowed...I was very much in love with my husband and when he died I couldn't imagine allowing another man to raise our kids...I am able to provide well for my 3 and everything is great...I have no one but myself to answer to...I go Where I want, When I want and with who I want...9 times out of 10 it is with my kids...I attend all Sports Practices and Games...we travel when we like (Hawaii for 3 weeks last Summer) and Disneyland when the Mood strikes...San Francisco on little Day-Trips when feel the desire etc.... My kids are now 13, 14 and 17, I will have plenty of time for a relationship if I want when they are in College.

I have nothing but a great deal of respect for single parents.

I honestly don't know how you guys do it. I mean, if faced with it, I guess you have to do it for your kids.

Our son Michael is disabled, and everyday I thank God that I am married to a man that can support the family while I run him around to therapy sessions and doctors appointments.

People have blunt out said to me, "Wouldn't you want to trade lives with someone who had a "normal" child?", so it falls along the same lines, people saying that they don't envy you. I have learned to ignore the comments, because if you don't, it will bring you down and you won't be able to be there for your kids.

Have a great night!

Not at all your kids come 1st no matter what I think that's a good idea but your boys need a father figure around the house it helps the be more of a men then momma boy. I had the same problem with my son and his mommas boy now for sure LOL

Good Luck find the right men for u is hard this day's to find a real men LOL

I'm not a single parent any more but when I was I didn't mind at all being a single parent yes I got into a serious relationship and got married but I didn't think I was in a bad situation because I wasn't in a relationship.

Parenting is the hardest and most rewarding job there is. I am not a single Mom, I have a wonderful husband and we have raised our three children together. I have the greatest admiration for single parents. My husband's father was killed in a mining accident and his mother raised 8 children by herself (ages 13-1). She did a fantastic job and I know it was not easy for her. All are adults and wonderful people with families of their own now. His mother has passed away but I thank God everyday for the love and dedication she showed to them. My husband is the fine, gentle man he is because of that wonderful lady.

I've been with my boyfriend ( dd's father ) for 6 years and although I'm lucky to have him I never look down or pity single women just because I'm in a relationship. If anything I look at them as strong responsible individuals that deserve my respect for doing a job ( parenting ) that is meant to have two people...but they are doing that two people position by there self!

You sound like a great parent, keep up the good work.

I very much admire you for your commitment to your children, more parents should think like you, single or married. Once you become a parent your priority must be the welfare of your children. Dating some guy and getting married is never the best thing for a kid. You focusing your energy on them is what they need and you can't do that if you are too serious with a man, just the way it is. Kudos to you.

I've been a single parent for almost a year and a half and I think its great. Its a lot of work, but I get to parent my child the way I want to. I also love that my daughter and I are so close since I'm her primary caregiver. Honestly, I don't have time to date!

Im not going to answer truthfully since I will end up with 50 thumbs down