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Can someone help me with my nephew ?

O.k so my nephew is 5 yrs old and he is the biggest BRAT I know. I am concerned about him and my sister because she doesn't know how to control him anymore. About 2 yrs ago he was fine he was a very educated boy and respected his mom. About a year ago we noticed the change in him he didn't change from one day to the other but he went slowly changing. Now he is rude and even has hit his mom a couple of times. He gets mad really easily so my sister is starting to think he might have an anger problem. He doesn't listen to anybody. When he gets mad he yells throws things and tries to hit you, the thing is that after his anger passes he comes and says sorry. He gets easily distracted and he is very hyper he can't stay still he is always moving around. Just recently my sister had a party in her house and my nephew wanted cake and my sister said no not yet and he got really upset and spit in her face in front of everybody and yelled at her that he didn't love her. My sister and I are concerned over his attitude and don't know what to do. Should we take him to the doctor or what should we do ?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    What happened to the days that we would never even dream of talking back to our parents, let alone hit them? I will tell you what this little boy needs, he needs DISCIPLINE, I am not saying beat the child, but you need or I guess it would be your sister needs to show him who the boss is. And a little tap on the hand is not discipline. Did your mom or dad ever just pat you on your hand? No, you got your butt handed to you in most cases & you turned out good. He is at the age where he is going to slowly push the boundaries & the more he gets away with the more he is going to get. And if you are against laying your hand on your child, or if your sister is, she knows what he likes best, start clearing out his room, he can practice letters, numbers, school work type of stuff until he learns his lesson, if he likes sweets feed him vegatables, she is the parent, she is the one in charge, TAKE CHARGE. She should have started this three years ago, but it isn't too late now, it will be though if you allow it to go on. Anger is not hereditary it is learned. Good luck & God Bless

  • 1 decade ago

    Get him assessed for ADD or ADHD (attention deficit disorder or attention deficit hyperactivity disorder). A lot of these kids get easily frustrated and lash out because they can't control themselves. They also have trouble in social situations. This must be addressed soon because kids are very social and if another child is perceived as being a trouble maker they willl be socially isolated.

    It could be something else--he could just be spoiled but this is easy to see--if the child gets every thing he wants and there are no boundaries like bed time, sharing etc.

    Source(s): I have two children and friends whose kids have learning disabilities.
  • esuz
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    1 decade ago

    This sounds like he has picked up bad behavior from school, new friends, TV or where ever.

    He must be told that it will not be tolerated in his home or with his family.

    Was he told to apologize to his sister? and what punishment was given to him?

    Hey, who is holding the handle of authority in the home? And where is the strap? He needs discipline before he becomes a teenager. If he continues in this trend you sure will have a juvenile delinquent in your family or a prison inmate for your nephew.

    Where are the rules for the home? and the given list for appropriate punishment for the disobedience of these rules? Parenting is no easy task but it is not free for all either. There are parents there are children and children must be taught to obey. If they cannot obey the rules of the home, they will not obey the rules of the land either.

    Talk with him and act swiftly when he falls out of line.

    And get a suitable male authority figure for him as well.

  • 1 decade ago

    My daughter went through some of the same things when she was 5 and so I talked to her teacher and found out that the kids at school were doing those types of things to her and my daughter thought that was the way she was supposed to act and my wife and I had to sit and talk to her about it for hours trying to find a way to solve the problem. Do not jump straight into ADHD, that is a bunch of bull because kids who are said to have it can play video games for hours. Try spending time with your child and find out what is going on in their school.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    My son was the same way- turns out he had an allergy to food coloring & eggs. Change his diet immediately- you should notice a big difference. No sugar, NO MSG, No preservatives, No food colorings, No dairy, No nitrates. Seems like a lot- we went fresh meat, fruit & veggies. Made a HUGE difference in just 1-2 days.

  • 1 decade ago

    The kid needs to know what acceptable behavior is and what is not. Talking has been very helpful with my 4 year old with the occassional time-out to back it up and teach consequences. My immediate reaction is that there is no or very little discipline in that house. Kidding aside, watch the Nanny to see how she deals with similar situations.

  • 1 decade ago

    get him a game system with some shooting games it will keep him distracted however you need to keep it as a gift for if he starts behaving badly try making a sheet for his behavior show him how it (the chart) works that will keep him calm after the game system (probably an x box that has the most entertaining games) offer him stuff like taking him and his friends to get ice cream hope this helps

    :)

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Have her call her pediatrician and ask for the number for dart. They will asign a person to evaluate him and to also do behavior management and teach them how to control him.

  • 1 decade ago

    I would take him to the doctor, he may have ADD, ADHD or may even be autistic. A doctor would be able to help him.

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