I'm having difficulty fitting in and meeting people?!?

I was exactly like you (except I was female) when I was in my twenties. (I'm mid 40's now, and totally comfortable in social situations, unlike back then) Really the only way to be more comfortable around people is to be comfortable around people more !That means putting yourself in as many LOW PRESSURE situations with people as possible. Things like doing volunteer work (doesn't have to be something charity oriented if that's not your thing....it can be something fun like volunteering to hand out cups of water at a marathon, etc) or taking a class at your local YMCA or dept. of recreation, or getting involved in a church if you're a spiritual person, or whatever. And try not to go into these things wondering how people are going to react to you, or hoping that you'll find a girl who likes you or whatever. Go into them to have fun, learn something, etc. This way you will relax and be yourself, and people will be more drawn to you. It sounds like you're just a little insecure and putting too much pressure on yourself and your social situations, and people pick up on that. (Trust me....been there done that !) Best of luck to you :)

Oh, by the way, another good way to meet people in your area in those "low pressure situations" that I was talking about is www.meetup.com. There are loads of groups in most areas that you can access via this website. You can meet people with similar interests, etc. I met my current boyfriend through one of their groups !

" i think my problems are more psychological than physical. . . .

I think there neither, there merely typical, and as for being

old at 23, your kidding right? if i weren't an atheist i'd sell

my soul to the devil to be your age again and know what

i know now, lol. as for the women thinking your intimidating,

forget it, my wife couldn't stand me when she firs laid eyes

on me, 41 years and 3 kids later we're more like high school

sweet hearts then most teens are today . . .

" I'm having difficulty fitting in " . . .

And there in is your problem, life and love isn't about fitting in,

you can't earn a masters degree for it, any more than one can

find it in asile 6 at walmart . . .

Just be your natural self, trust me, there's nothing more

attractive than an air of mystery, so the ladies find you

attractive and yet don't hang around, maybey instead of

depending on your friends to fix you up, you just need

to learn something they don't teach you in school, simply

put, a new way of saying, " Heeerrr Kity Kity " . . .

you need fred help lol !!!!!!!!

here goes !!

find one person nice and tag along for a few days or so meet some new people and then grow from there !!!

forget girls make boy friends then move on !!!!

grils come !!!!

be confident and just do it you can hardly sit there and do nothing but think about doing it cos then you get nothing !!!

grils come later boys first !!!

gl all will come soon !!! you need friends !!!!!!!

fred !!!

tag along and your off i Guess

Everyone is screwed up man. just dont let a shrink put you on meds cause they kill your libido. Still be a loner, but buy tang. life is so much easier without a nagging b234h that divorces you and takes half your stuff.

I have seen relationships wreck peoples lives.

Are you friendly or do you wait for other people to initiate a conversation?How about going out with people at work if there are parties.Just be yourself.People are hard to please no matter what you do.

Hard to tell, but try smiling and be open when somebody approach you.

whats your sign dear? if you have any pisces friends, ask them to help you out with meeting friends....dont give up....try putting the word out to relatives too that you are looking....I will pray for you ok and you do that too....ask Jesus for help....

the right girl will come along eventually. and when you know it, dont be shy and ask her out.