How can I know for sure without asking?

If a card comes with the flowers see who sent them but really her business is none of yours, you really sound paranoid what you need is a lover to get you through this your husband ain't coming back so why should you face this cold world alone.

I know this is going to sound immature, but I would play it. Make comments like. "I remember getting flowers too and now the low life cheated." "If he does start dating, I feel sorry for the girl already, he's probably going to do the same thing to her as well." "I'm better off without him anyway".. Perhaps not directly to her, but if you have friends at work just make random comments like that when she's near by and can hear. It's one things for them to think that your stupid and another for you to let them get away with it. Good luck! Oh, I know it's hard because it's kind of like a slap on the face, but you'll be the stronger person in the end.

Even if it were her, besides it being awkward for you to work with her, what can you do? Even if you were to ask her she would most likely deny it for fear it will cause trouble for her at work. Your husband has obviously moved on to the point he does not even care if he dates someone you work with, how insensitive is that? I can understand how very uncomfortable and betrayed this makes you feel. Don't let them get the best of you and hopefully your husband will at least be more discrete and not be so open about sending her flowers and phone calls to her job. This all just goes to show what an insensitive jerk you married. Be glad he is gone now. Good luck and stay strong!

I'd want to know. I mean I think you have a right to know that your ex-husband is dating a co-worker. Should you dwell on that and hold a grudge forever, no. But I would want to know. Them not telling you is evidence of them both being dishonest. I'd ask, accept the answer and move on. I'd just ask her. "Who's the bouquet from?" "Who are you dating now?" I don't think I would point blank ask if it were your husband b/c you could be wrong and that would be quite awkward! I do think you'd get the truth from her quicker than your ex. He's already proven to be a liar.

OMG! You poor thing. Usually if it looks like a rat and smells like a rat - it is a rat. From what you've said I'd put money on the fact that your ex is dating your work colleague! What a nightmare. Could she be the one he cheated on you with?

Even if not, it's a bit bloody insensitive of him to choose someone you work with out of everybody there is!!!!!! I'd just ask her who she got the flowers from or maybe just ask her who she's seeing right now. If she gets red and flustered you'll know. But I think you know already.

Maybe you could have a look through his phone if you ever get the opportunity? When you find out I don't know what to suggest though. After all, he is your ex but it hasn't been long has it. I think I'd have to move on to a different company as it'd be horrible to see them together. Fancy him sending her flowers knowing that you'd see them -what a nasty piece of work.

Good luck in your next man.

xx

why are you wasting your time with these two people..whether they are seeing each other or not there's nothing you can do about it... they are obviously playing shady on you by keeping it from you..but honestly it's none of your business..if your friend is being that way then she really isn't your friend and you need to just move on...

i would just leave them two be without contact cause the more you get bothered by it the more you'll be miserable...

I would call her out on it, but in a nice way. Just tell her that you know the truth and you would like it if she stopped acting like you are stupid then walk away.

PS: File for divorce ASAP

You already know the answer to the question without even asking. You need to let them both know when you are with the two of them that you hope that they are both happy together and they both deserve each other.

wow what a mind ****... Is there any way that the two could have met?

regardless- it's time to date other people- doesn't have to be prince charming but you know rebound dating is actually quite therapeutic- good luck- oh and just ignore the *****- she'll get hers one day- worry not

That's all you can do. Just tell them you would appreciate the truth rather than 2 people lying to you.