Am I being a hypocrite here? ?

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I had this really close friend for about 8 years, we were best friends. Then one day over a very minor dispute he decides he will disappear and stop talking to me. Three years later he emerges and wants to be friends again. During these three years I had understandably developed some anger towards his cowardly display and met up with him to tell him all the things I wanted to tell him. Now he is trying so hard to be friends with me.. its kind of sad. I sometimes go out with him in a group but I feel like such a hypocrite when he is there.. I am never going to trust him again and we will never be "friends" you know? What do you guys think?

JD · Accepted Answer

I think your right. He made his choice a long time ago, you have moved on and your at least been civil but end of the day he made his choice. I would be the same as you!

therealmrshartman · Answer

WEll I believe true friends are always there for you no matter how long it has been since you have spoken.  I understand the animosity but you should forgive him.  People are human and make mistakes, and although you may have not done this exact thing to a friend by not allowing him to earn your trust back as a friend is a harsh reaction, in my opinion.  SOmetimes people find themselves in situations they do not know how to handle properly, therefore they remove themselves from the equation. IT may be cowardly, but they may not know any other way to handle it.  AS a friend you can let him know that it hurt you and if a situation ever came up again you would prefer if her responded in a way that you were more comfortable with!  We all learn by experience and he is no exception.

Brunette Barbie · Answer

Something like this happened with a girl I was friends with since 3rd grade (we are 22 now) she hated & stopped talking 2 me because I didnt "jump in" a fight she got in2 with some1 else. We got back 2gether but she talked behind my back & tried 2 ruin a relationship with my boyfriend. It will never work, tell him 2 fuq off!

baby_rost · Answer

Be friendly and be the bigger person.

I too have went through this and recent.

i remember now, and you should too, why you may not need these people in your life anymore.

Friends come and go.  You used to share a good thing.  But you have toher friends also.
Be forgiving, brush it off your shoulds , but don't allow yourself to get hurt again.

Anonymous · Answer

well you are correct. you cant trust him, however he has grown, we all make mistakes and change. but did he give you a good reason, or blow it off. its ok to be his friend again, but the relationship wont be the same. you can trust him for some things but i would not be close like before, its not worth the outcome if it happens again, and you dont want your dirt out if he desides to spill the beans.

Marina · Answer

You aren't a hypocrite, you're just being civil in a group situation. That's politeness. I see no reason to renew the friendship unless he has expressed remorse and taken responsibility for his actions. If he hasn't, forget it.

Pauln11 · Answer

he ende the friendship and you shouldn't let him just act like nothing happened 3 years later. tell him where to get off. he's left it too long

♥It&#39;s Me Again♥ · Answer

That's weird!

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