Please only answer if you are in a relationship with step parent or children.?

Hi there... Ive been a step daughter myself... not that i was ever treated like one... It would have never crossed my mum's mind to tell me to disobey my step dad... By contrary, god help me if i did disobey. In our family everything worked out equally.

On top of that i have two kids from a previous relationship... I told my partener to treat my kids like would be his and i made it clear to my kids that as long as we live in the same house and we all take care of each other, it is their duty to listen to all the adults in the family (including me, my ex, and my partner- just made sure to say that their dad's rules apply to his house and my and my partner's rules in my house).

My partner would go mad if i would ask the kids to not listen to it because it would be a total lack of respect from me to him... And i would go all the way through the roof if i would be in your shoes...

Talk to your husband calmly... explain him that it is extreme wrong of him to do something like this... If he does not understand, leave him. Hes not worth your time.

"We are about to get a divorce over it."

I don't advise getting a divorce over a situation that your step-daughter and friends have caused ...breaking things etc. The young lady is already playing both of you against each other which means she's had her way long enough so why even think divorce. I'd bet she's banking on you not knowing what she said to her father and as her father he is parent to her so for the rest of his life should be setting an example...no, not taking the blame for her choices but making smart choices himself and you also.

"If someone gets hurt at these parties I can be sued since it is my house." Another very good point.

You are the Step Mother. Even you stop the girl for a wrong step, she will surely take it otherwise, Even your husband too.

Now the best way, keep you mouth shut, don't speak anything negative about her in front of your husband and not to the girl.

Try to plan or Createe a situation to proove the thing whatever the girl is doing to her father, like just plan a visit with him, but cancel the same in midway and go back home....... something like that.

Like that your husband can understand the situation and start respect you , may she listern her father advice but the chances are very less...

I were with step father for atleast 20 years. Your Step Daughter is really lucky , she got a careing step mother. God bless you.

I am the stepdad. I have an 18 year old step daughter.

She's been in 3 accidents in 2 years, and we have been covering her insurance so far, but looks like we're going to have to cancel her. She is also pretty much destroying her car, and that will be her expense to repair or replace.

My wife and I discuss these things and agree. We both love our daughter but need to emphasize that she needs to take responsibility for her actions and consequences at this age.

I believe your daughter owes you something... maybe if she has a job she help pay for what was damaged.

And it will often be the case that daughter will go to natural parent first, and at times daughter will try and play the parents off against each other, exploiting the situation if they have different points of view... this is why it is important that you and your hubby get in line, and don't break the line.

tell her it was wrong and unacceptable you are an adult take the responsibility step up to the plate and take care of Business and she does not need to go to her father about it that makes her think she can get away with it get that divorce I had to go through the same thing but with three of them they just don't care and they never will they both need to grow up!

i grew up with 2 step siblings...and my mother would have brought don hail and lghtening if my dad ever told them no to obey her!!!! if he can tell his kid to disobey you, theres something wrong with him...im anti-divorce, but i get your drift.

im sooo mad he'd do that tho!!! if he doesnt apologise and tell his daughter to do the same (and if he doesnt mend her attitude) i think it's time to leave them to their rude life....you cant ever be her mother with her dad standing btwn you 2, and he cant ever be your husband with his kid in the middle...im sorry

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She is 18, it's time for her to get her own place so she can pay for her own damages.If your husband doesn't stand behind you, maybe it's time for you to move out and get your own place.

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maybe sit down camfully and talk about it.

commonscence will prevail

its only a fridge