How can you get your older brother, 49 years old to move out of the house?

She should set a deadline for him to get a job or get out, then after he gets a job (if he gets a job) set another deadline for when he has to move out by. Then she should stick by those deadlines no matter what. If he hasn't vacated by that time then she should vacate him. Put his stuff out on the lawn after having changed the locks.

I don't know how much help I can be mate, but I'll try.

Try to have a slow gradual talk with him over days with suggestions with subjects such as "you know there are great housing prices around this area" or "that shop down the street has vacancies for a job" etc.. Instead of coming in very firm, ease him into it and it will be a lot easier to get a fullfilling discussion out of it.

You could also try hinting him with newspaper ads of flats or something.

Sorry about not being much help:S

LMAO - "come to Jesus" talk

Hints rarely work with people like your older brother. Your sister is going to have to give the ultimatum--out of the house by this date ________ or the locks will be changed and your personal property will be in the yard. If it comes to this, the rest of the family should be prepared for his arrival and request to be taken in.

For goodness sake, 49 and he plays video games all day instead of looking for gainful employment?! He knows a soft touch (your sister) when he sees one.

Good luck.

Good luck. You guys have enabled him for too long. Kicking him to the streets now would be cruel. He needs a job first and that would mean taking the video games away from him.

Tell him to start paying his part of the rent and groceries or he will have to find another place to stay. Take away his video games until he finds a job. Hide it good.

It's probably too late. Once someone hits their 40s it become incredibly difficult to get them to change. Once a mooch, always a mooch. The only thing that can be done is for your sister to tell him to get out, period. If she can't do that (and it sounds like she can't because she hasn't done it yet) then she'll just have to get use to taking care of her brother for the rest of their lives.

He's almost 50 for crying out loud. Give him a 30 day notice. At the end of thirty days, kick him out, no questions or extensions. he's an adult. Unless he is physically or mentally disabled, he'll figure something out for himself. He is definitely taking advantage.

Tell her to : Change the locks and not tell him about it, put his stuff in storage and give him the address to where it is. Hook him up with a local boarding facility and do not allow her to enable him anymore.

It's up to your sister to tell him that she is tired of helping him. And all she has to do is tell him the truth. Which is hard but necessary.

If she doesn't want to help him anymore. Then that's exactly what she should tell him.

give him a deadline to get his act together or find a different place to stay, tell him you are not running a hotel, because hotels charge daily rates