my fiance doesn't show me any love?

I was once in your place, and I was like to thinking " why cant we see hes being a prick!" but in order for him to change your going to have to continue being nice and giving it your all and loving him 100% all the time in any situation. Getting upset wont want to make him spend more time with you , and it will only make you feel more hopeless in the end, why don't you offer to play video games with him or maybe take a nap together, and surprise him, he will want to spend more time with you, but there is a problem here and if he cares enough he has to do something about it, if its bothering you obviously there's a problem and that needs to be his priority. No relationship is maintenance free, and he needs to know that too, you need to talk, and try to get involved in what he likes to do , and try to get him involved in what you like to do. Im sure it will seem like he dosent notice or care at first but just keep swinging, why dont you rent a video game and surprise him , go home and play with him, im sure he would like that. I know my fiance like it . I hope I was some help

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my fiance doesn't show me any love?

Often I feel like my fiance doesn't even want to be with me because he seems so distant. He would rather play video games and sleep than be with me. When he is with me, I don't feel loved by him. He seems like he is being forced to be in a relationship with me or something. He isn't romantic in any...

There is no way to get him to be nicer or more romantic, I'm afraid. You can't change other people, ever.

The fact that he blames you for his very poor attitude is cause for concern. This is a classic defense posture of a future abuser. Abusers never take responsibility for their violent behaviour - it's always someone else's fault (usually the spouse's, but sometimes they blame work, stress, alcohol, etc.). They never get mad, someone makes them mad. This guy sounds like bad news, I'm sorry.

Ask yourself: why do you love him? What is it about him that makes you want to spend the rest of your life with him? Because the way you describe him, I can't see that you love him or even much like him. Have you perhaps confused infatuation - the butterflies in your stomach feeling you get - with love?

If I've learned anything in my life, is that you can't change a person who doesn't WANT to change.

I'm curious as to why you're engaged to a person that doesn't even behave like he truly loves you to begin with. However, I'm not here to judge, you must be with him because you love him, for whatever reasons. So, instead, I suggest you try to make time to do things as a couple. Even if it's just snuggling and watching a movie, or going for a walk...he sounds a tad lazy and immature, what with the videogames and sleeping bit.

It's not nice that he treats you coldly when you're crying or upset. You probably need to tell him to put down the game console and have a chat with him. Try to remain calm. Tell him how you feel when he does that. Compromise. Agree to your faults, but don't let him make excuses for his.

As for nicer and more romantic-take the reigns, perhaps. Like I said, you can try to arrange things for you to do. Try to be romantic and nice, see if he reciprocates. Try to take an interest in what he likes to do, and try to get him to take an interest in what you like. A relationship is about communication, trust, and love. Work not alone, but as a couple. Good luck!

Either you are misreading him, or you need to kick his butt to the road.

If there is any chance you are misreading his signals as a "lack of love", then read the Five Love Languages.... maybe he is showing his love in a way you aren't accustomed to.

If not, then get rid of him. Why marry someone you don't feel loved by?

Really, why are you marrying him? Sounds like he doesn't care about you at all. Why would you want to be with someone, let alone be married to a man whom you say "basically just isn't very nice to me"? You can do better and deserve better. Don't settle!

Why are you marrying him??? You cannot change anyone. Accept them for who they are now. Sounds like you don't want to be with him, so why would you marry him. If he's not treating you the way you should be treated leave him. Plain and simple. No excuses. Do not marry him. Why would you marry a guy like this anyways?!!??!

why are you marrying him if he doesn't treat you good? Do you want to spend your life with someone like that? You can't change a person unless they want to change themselves

sounds like you two are having trouble communicating. Why not see a marriage counselor?

Break up with him. You can't change a person.