Our 9 month old son is running the house, HELP!?

Put him in the crib--he won't cry all night long. Every night you do it (and you need to be consistent) he will cry for less and less time. It's time to hire a sitter while Mommy runs errands so he has no choice but to see other people. That level of dependence is over the top.

He's not going to play with toys unless he's taught HOW to play with toys. You can't just set him down and expect him to know what to do. You need to play with the toys with him so he develops the skills and tools to play on his own.

You have identified part of the problem. The part you haven't identified is who is the parent and who is the child.

Just because someone who has only existed on this planet for nine months cries, doesn't mean you should give in to his tantrums!!! He has no idea of what is best for him and what is not.

You should be in control, not him. If you have a hesitant attitude about rules or requirements, he will pick up on that and continue to rule the roost.

Have a routine for that child and deal firmly, but gently, with him. If you put him in his crib and he cries all night, so be it. (Eventually, he will have to sleep) Put him to bed at the same time every night. See to his NEEDS and then let him go to sleep. Period. He can choose to cry or not and you will have to put up with it because it is the natural result of your not holding steady earlier in his life. But, if you correct it now, you can have a well-disciplined, well-behaved, nice young man grow up in your family. The sooner you take the reins, the sooner you will all be more peaceful and happy.

You can't reason with your son much yet, but you can tell him, "Mommy is busy right now, so Daddy will bathe you." Don't hurt him, don't yell at him, just bathe him. If he cries the whole time, OK. A bath will get a crying baby just as clean as it will get one who is not crying.

Handle everything with him matter-of-factly. If mommy is busy, mommy is busy. If it is bed time, it is bed time. It's not negotiable, as you have let him believe so far. If he cries and it bothers you, remember that it is you who failed to handle it correctly from the beginning, so that he now believes he must have his own way. (I'm not saying it is your fault, you didn't know better. But now you do know better.)

His crying will drive you crazy for awhile, but just plan to put up with it. It won't last forever. And never, never, never, never give in because you're tired of hearing it. Just bear with it. It will change when he finds out that you mean it, and that you are in control. It will be much better for him to have parents to parent him, than for him to have to run a household all his little life.

Take control of your household. That's your job. And that's why the Good Lord made babies so small, so you can pick them up and move them to where they should be if they won't go there on their own!! lol.

Set up standards for acceptable behavior ASAP. As others have said, put him in a crib and ignore him when he is tantruming. Show him it's not okay to act like that. Give him attention when he's doing the right thing, not when he's misbehaving to access the attention. It may be difficult to let him cry, but you are doing him a disservice by letting him control you. It may take days or weeks, but he'll eventually get the hint.

Gosh...and I thought I had it bad. My daughter gets mad too if I get out of her site. It's really hard to let them 'cry it out' when they just keep crying. If you have someone else near you, family or friends, that could watch him...even if just for a bit, maybe he will get used to you not being around 24/7. Even if he cries the first few times, it will be worth it when you can get things done. You may try talking with his pediatrician too. You may have tried all of these things too. Just thought I'd give you some ideas. I believe there are some books you can read too that will give you some advice. Good luck!!!!

Don't give in. Explain that mommy loves him. Give him mommy attention when appropriate. But, don't let junior dictate the terms. Force him to go through the normal routine, even if he screams his head off. Specifically, you may need to endure many sleepless nights, before he understands that mommy isn't comming to his crib on demand. You may experience many screaming fits, before he realizes that mommy is designed to serve his every need.

u know its really funny how u guys keep saying to tell him mommy's busy and daddy will give him a bath or something when he isn't gonna have a freaking clue what the heck she is saying they have no language skills whatsoever at that age. i know its hard but u may just have to let him cry

Take him to a dr. And you need to be consistent in getting him to give you more time away. It isn't normal, but he didn't come out that way, you have helped him form this view of the world somehow so you have to help him be okay with being with others.

You are in for a lot of trouble once this kid hits puberty! answer this, who are the adults? Who is suppose to be in charge? So, the little hellion cries and screams when he does not get his way? Who cares? Let him scream and cry. You need to set boundries and routines and set then NOW.

oh gosh my 10 mo old is the same way! but you need to put him in his play pen while you clean he will stop crying after he sees your not picking him up my sons doing alot better, they do love there mommys :) but mommys need alot rest to,

Welcome to separation anxiety. My mom says it well, they have just figured out that they are a separate person and mommy can leave. It will pass, until then I suggest getting a carrier. I love my Ergo.

http://www.babycenter.com/0_separation-anxiety_145...