What is the fair balance of power between men and women?

Fair isn't necessarily 50/50. Equity does not equal equality. If a man and women both work and then decide split the house work so that each have 4 hours to do each week, that's equality, but what if we were told that the man also works 8 hours more each week than his wife? Then we wouldn't split it 50/50 we'd split it so that the wife would have more or less 8 hours more housework than the husband per week (hypothetically speaking), that's equity.

That said, equality shouldn't be the aim, equity should be. In relationships things should be based on this concept as opposed to the feminist concept of equality.

For your specific situation, you should simply ignore him for the time being, do other things and see what happens from there.

What you may have said to offend him is absolutely NO excuse for the way he's behaving. You may be 25, and your friends have children and marriages already (and frankly I think that is far too young for most people to be married with children), but that doesn't mean you need to hold on to someone who is passive aggressive and manipulative. I don't care what a boyfriend did to offend me, or how I've offended him, ignoring the person for 3 days and hanging up on them is a very hurtful thing to do. I had a long distance relationship like that once - at 28 (two years ago). He would ignore me as much as possible after a fight. It turned out that he was out at bars getting other girls' phone numbers, talking to his ex and telling her we weren't serious (even though we had talked about getting engaged soon), and just being a compulsive liar in general. I am not saying your situation is the same, but anyone who is immoral enough to ignore their own girlfriend for three days and cause that kind of pain is probably doing other shady stuff. I would seriously consider leaving. You have PLENTY of time for marriage and kids.

If you want a balance in power in your relationship, you need to find someone else to have a relationship with.

P.S. I thought I would never find anyone again, or be in love again, but I am. And this time it's MUCH better.

If you want to have some balance of power in a relationship, don't date jerks that mooch off of you, ignore you, hang up on you, and enjoy seeing you suffer. I was hoping that it was a teen tiff and not a grown woman putting up with this bs. But you are so you need to be accountable for the relationship and it's dynamic you're not a victim..and most relationships do have an equitable balance of power, your relationship is not characteristic of most so I really can't answer your question.

You need to break up with this guy.

This does sound like high school, not a mid-20s relationship.

If you truly are a powerful, independent woman you should know better than to stay with a guy who tries to punish you. You aren't going to fix this guy, he's manipulative and if you want an equal relationship, you need to move on.

Be a Female, not a fake-male.

Why it is a proud for you to say" I punctured his masculinity".

He has to destroy your "femilinity".. Any how the Parasites much bigger than you are trying 60 years, But for doing it well, you can get many information in any TV show, news, films,..

If he is not there, means you failed. He should do to you what you tried to do to him. this is 50/50.,

It's not about a "balance of power." It's about using your special talents to work together to achieve mutually-agreeable goals.

Bud Abbott: "Remember, I'm the boss and you're nuthin'."

Lou Costello: "Big deal, boss over nuthin'."

(Brilliant, classic American comedy team.)

I'm not getting involved in teen tiffs.

"Fair" is equal, and equal is 50/50.

Well, balance is to feminism what capitalism is to communism - a nuisance.