how do you get all of your girlfriends trust cause all of her previous boyfriends destroyed it already?

I have this problem, Well had this problem, I didnt trust my boyfriend, becasue of what my previous bfs had done to me, but talk to her every day and let her know you care, d nice things for her, SHOW her you love her, and care, it takes a lot of time to gain someonmes full trust, especially when guys have destroyed her heart before. Just give it time, and work on it every day, she'll learn to trust you.

I'm sure she has just seen that most of the time love fades away with time... So more of the fact is that she has lost trust in love and the way the world is...

Personally I would have a heart to heart with her! Bring up her past relationships and ask her why they went wrong? Tell her you really want to make this work and your afraid she's starting to shut down... Knowing why all the ex's are ex's will help both of you from falling in the same rut she's been in before. Let her know how much you want this and that you want her help to not be like all the other guys you want to earn he trust and be better!

Also doing the little things says a lot!!! compliment her! randomly get her small gifts for no reason at all! let her know she's beautiful! how much she turns you on. How she makes your life better!

You could even go as far as to show her this questionnaire!!! To show her that your just as scared as her and a relationship is a team effort!!!

Thats the same problem with me and my current boyfriend.

We've been doing okay lately. 7 months actually. Started out GREAT! But now, its going a little down hill with all the fighting. I've never had a relationship so long. Because i was a party girl, till he came along and basically made me throw it all away for the best, i guess he couldn't trust me, which i know understand was messed up, cause if he can't trust me we have nothing am i right?

So, your girlfriend has the same problem as I. We both had messed up relationships, and can't trust out boyfriends as much as we'd like because of the past.

Because what our boyfriends are telling us now, are what out boyfriends have said in the past. Making it hard for us to believe because all the previous times, they broke the trust.

Or didn't mean a word they said, or went behind out back.

And we're not trying to get our hopes up this time, no matter what.

You really need to give her time. DON'T do things that will make her doubt you even more, and do not, treat her like she has been treated in the past, that will make her doubt you more and more each day.

Compliments, make her feel like a queen. Always be there for her. Call her. Text her everyday. Take her out, dinners, shopping. you know. Just treat her right.

And if you don't do anything mischievous. Give her your full attention, make this relationship last and as you say your "in love" with her. You won't ever let her go no matter what, because you love her. That means getting through the tough times together, making them work. Dealing with her fits and the attitudes she throws at you, like my boyfriend does. Cause if you can't handle it, it might not be worth it to her if your willing to give up so fast.

Well I don't know what you expect after 2 months. You have to be more patient if you want this relationship to work. If she has been acting weird then I have to ask why. Does it have anything to do with you pressuring her in any way in any areas? Trust can only be built on the foundation of honesty. Never lie to her, or leave things out, don't try to deceive her. What are your intentions towards her? What does she want from a relationship? Do they match? Hope this helps.

It's so much easier to lose someones trust than to gain it. I swear, it's like a never ending problem.

And honestly, there's not really a good way to make someone trust you, unfortunately it takes a lot of time. You have to earn her trust by not losing it.

Show her what kind of a guy you are. Show her that you deserve her trust. Show her that you're there for her.

Time is all you need to get her to trust you, just be a great boy friend and it will come with time. A word of warning, sometimes people are over defensive when they are doing something wrong. Something to bare in mind.

But just treat her the best you can and trust will come in time.

go about your life as normal

she can suspect all she wants but she will never find any reason to not trust you

believe me i am also the girl who cannot trust new boyfriends at first it takes time

dont get upset that she cant trust you yet its not your fault

she is just looking out for herself!

She could be acting this way because she doesn't want to be with you and is trying to make things difficult so you break up with her. Or she is freaking out that things are getting to serious and she doesn't know how to handle it. Just ask her straight up what is going on and tell her to give you an honest answer because life is to short to play guessing games.

Well, all you really can do is just be yourself and tell her you love her and want to be with her everyday. If she doesn't believe you then she doesn't believe you, but you'll know in your heart that you gave it all you had and if it works then great, but if not...then in the end it's just going to be her fault for letting other guys get in the way of her happiness with you. I wish you two the best of luck! = )

It takes time. Just don't rush her and show her through action that you're going to be there for her no matter what.

On the other hand, if she starts to get too possessive and controlling, it might now be worth it. You shouldn't have to pay for the mistakes other people made.