I just lost my dad..and..?

I'm sorry sweety, My sincere sympathy and condolences. I hope things get better for you hun. Hang in there and pray. Lean on the Lord! Talk to him as often as you can. He is going thru this with you and your not alone. Its tough at the beginning. But, as cliche as this saying is ...it is very true...Time does heal. You won't ever forget but you will build a new you and a new life and a new strength you never thought you had. Believe me because I lost both my parents in September and from my experience it is a minute by minute life changing experience. In time all the pain does begin to subside and even now you feel that life won't ever be the same. You'll need to work hard for yourself to make all thos normal things continue in your life. Treat yourself to special things you would normally not give into. Stay away from drinking and drugs they will just led you down a path where you won't be able to pull yourself out. I would advise you to look for a grief counseling service. There are many out there. Churches, hospitals, and some county services where all these are free. Try to get in contact with a group of grief survivors. These services are developed for bereavement and this is where you can go thru this with others who have lost loved ones. Having support from others who are going thru the same ordeal is very helpful in your healing.

When you are sad or crying because you have to release some of the pain, or

you are working through how to rebuild your life without the possibility with them in it... that's

a healthy part of what you have to get through to heal. It's very painful,

but it's healing. But if you feel it dragging you into that black pit,

that's depression and you need to fight it with all your might. It's very

easy to let it drag you in... but it's very hard work to get out once you're

there.

FOOTPRINTS IN THE SAND

One night a man had a dream. He dreamed He was walking along the beach with the LORD. Across the sky flashed scenes from His life. For each scene He noticed two sets of footprints in the sand. One belonging to Him and the other to the LORD.

When the last scene of His life flashed before Him, he looked back at the footprints in the sand. He noticed that many times along the path of His life there was only one set of footprints. He also noticed that it happened at the very lowest and saddest times of His life.

This really bothered Him and He questioned the LORD about it. LORD you said that once I decided to follow you, you'd walk with me all the way. But I have noticed that during the most troublesome times in my life there is only one set of footprints. I don't understand why when I needed you most you would leave me.

The LORD replied, my precious, precious child, I Love you and I would never leave you! During your times of trial and suffering when you see only one set of footprints, it was then that I carried you.

Shannon

Your mother seems to be leaning on you for support, I was 16 when my father died and basically the same thing happened to me. I was the one who had to plan everything and then I took care of everyone and still have not grieved, because I am made to feel like I am doing something wrong.

You have to realize your mother just lost her husband, her whole support system, but she also needs to realize you are young and need a strong parent, if you feel like this is too much pressure, then tell her, or ask her for help. If she can't manage ask a relative or family friend for help.

You go ahead and you cry, cry as much as you have to. You lost your father and you are entitled to cry and be depressed, don't let anyone take that away from you. And if none of your family is supporting you then cry to a friend.

As far as what to say in the eulogy, say what comes to your heart, talk about how much you loved him, talk about good times you had, talk about his life, and talk about how much you will miss him. You will cry but just hang in there, you never get over something like this you just learn to manage it.

People are always wanting sympathy and can barely give it when we personally need it. I felt this way... I mean REALLY felt I hit that down feeling not when any of my family members died, but when I personally had a meltdown that I did not expect. I looked around my room and saw ONE friend with me, and she wasn't even awake. She was asleep on the other side of me. I cried so much and it was like she did not hear a thing.

But darling, really and truthfully, God was really my only ONE friend, even though there are many friends who I can physically see. I can't phyiscally see God, but I sat down on the floor with the bible in my hand, unopened and i felt worlds better while i was crying.

the oceanic 6 are saved. thats noticeably lots ruined the ending. in certainty, what this is is they're asserting how and why they even have been given off the island and left all and sundry there. in my view, i think of charlie is coming back. no longer in basic terms interior the flash forwards, yet somewhat interior the sequence. i dont be responsive to how, he merely is

you can cry/talk to me just email me. And have you tried to talk to your mom about how you feel about everything?

I am really sorry about this situation. my sympathies to you. Have you asked your mom to mourn with you for a while?

i know!!! i hate it when ppl ignore my feelings! they keep telling me how to feel, instead of excepting thats not how i feel! u should go to a counsoler, or some1 who will show u compassion, like a really good friend..