What should I do? this man using his daughter to get to my son? please read?

Since she is 16, she get get emancipated from her parents. Since she's pregnant, that makes it easier for her to do that. But, if she doesn't want to do that, you and your son can write up a payment contract that both you guys and the girl's family can agree too. He agrees to give them a certain amount every week, have them sign it, and then it can be considered a legal document if you have to go to court. Also, once she has the baby, a paternity test can be done. Once the test proves that the baby is his, he is allowed to go to court to get joint/full custody of the child. Keep it all legal with these people, as they sound very unreasonable. Once she turns 18, if she does not emancipate herself now, she can move out of her parents house and she and your son and the baby can get an apartment together.

Edit: Although they should have been more responsible when they had sex, I do commend him for at least standing up and being a man. Not every teenage boy will do that. Do tell him that he's a good guy for not leaving her and the baby alone.

Wow. Really rough. Don't keep giving cash. Start writing checks so you have some proof where the money is going. Yes you need to have something in writing, but I doubt that her parents are going to go for that.

As far as the restraining orders.....don't start down that road. Someone needs to step up and take charge here and it doesn't sound like your son can successfully do that. If you and your husband are willing, you can apply for custody of the girlfriend. And at 16 she has certain rights about where she lives. I would consult an attorney. A good family lawyer knows what you can and can't do at this point, but because your son is 18 there are statutory rape issues that will be brought out by the father if he hasn't already thought of it. You can't control the father and it sounds like you need to protect your son. Focus on him and the new baby. Take a step back from his seeing his gf and put everything in writing. Write down a log of times dates and instances where there have been problems. Good luck.

Is your sons father on the scene? Maybe HE should straighten the gfs father out! Or a large male friend of the family maybe? The girls father is too late with his overbearing parenting routine! If he wanted his daughter to stay out of trouble he might have laid down some laws a long time ago! They are only kids but they made a baby now if they plan on keeping the baby (and the baby will be brought up by the parents and not someone else in the family) its time for her parents AND HIS to back off and support them in trying to make it as such a young family. You need to cut the umbilical cord a little where your son is concerned and so do her parents. Good luck.

These people are messes heads. They shouldn't require so much money from your son. They should have used some protection anyway or the girl get an abortion. If he moves in, he shouldn't pay half the rent but 1/4th since he is not the only one living there. Why don't they want from their daughter to pay twice the rent because she is expecting a baby and that means 2 people? Nuts...

Okay i am 18 and i had a baby at the age of 16.

first of she needs to realize now that she is pregnant and going to be having a baby that legally she is considered an adult because she is reliable for somone elses life.

secondly she should be using that money to buy things for the baby not her self.

thirdly why doesn't your son attempt to try to find another job that pays a steady rate i know it's hard witht he economy but he needs to

and for her father well he needs to realize no matter what he does or says that your son is going to be in that babies life because he has fatherly rights.

so he might as well get over it.

and he needs to quit being such a jerk because he isn't his business weather it's his baby or not she is pregnant and there is nothing he can do to change this.

and i would say that he needs to get a P.O. because he is threatening your sons life and it's in his best interest. since he isn't seeing his daughter anyways

And they have no liable reason to get one on your son because he is only mad about her being pregnant and she is at legal age

and him not giving her money which is no reason

I cant blame the daughters dad for being pissed. Your son knocked up his 16 year old daughter.

But its total b.s about the medicaid.You can mail in, or fax your medicaid application. She could use the school fax machine, or go to the library, or any office supply store. You dont have to drop it off. You can also apply at the doctors office and they can turn in the paper work for you. There is no excuse why she shouldnt be on medicaid unless they are just using that as an excuse to get money out of your son.

other than that I have no other advice.

Your son sounds like he is doing the best he can given the situation. If the girl's parents don't clean up their act, their daughter is sure to disown them. Tell your son to hang in there, she's almost 18. Besides, he has rights to the baby too. He is the father after all and the grandparents can't deny him visitation. It's not their baby. Do they want to risk losing contact with their daughter AND their grandchild?

Okay what I am going to say is coming from the mother of a daughter.

My little girl is 8 and if she got pregnant at 16 I would not only kill her but the little dirt bag who knocked her up.

Now I can sympathize only to an extent, if his job is so unstable and the pay is not regular he needs to find a new one, he is going to be a father.

As for the girls father it can not be easy to have your little girl get pregnant it kinda makes you come to terms with two things: 1 your daughter is having sex and 2 she is not your baby anymore and he is directing his anger at the person who took both of those things from him.

If you are really concerned for the little girl then have her move in with you guys.

You all need to come together for the sake of this baby.

Sounds like a real mess to me. Her father has a right to be mad. His daughter will be having an illegitimate child and her future will suffer from it. So your son wants to talk to her, hasn't he talked with her enough already? Life is hard, and two young people have made things even harder for them selves . Just as my dad would have said ( If you dance you have to Pay the Fiddler).

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you definitely need to file something against him. He sounds crazy! As for the girl, she could always get emancipated. I feel bad for the both your son and his girlfriend. Sounds like this guy just wants your sons money and doesn't want to provide for his daughter anymore.