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Is 5 months long enough for an 18 yr old guy to have waited until becoming impatient without sex?
(from Singles & Dating)
~I want sex she doesnt. wat shud we do?~
"Iam an 18 year old boy and not a virgin, my 17 year old g/f who is a virgin says she doesn't want to have sex. we have been dating for 5 months..."
What about 3 years? ('best answer' for that same question)
"No, you can't. Break up with her before you do something you regret. My bf wants to have sex with me too, but I know better and he knows better (although he still tries). We've been together for 3 years."
--Hiya
^Take special note of that 2nd comment. 'My boyfriend wants to have sex too, but he knows better (eventhough he still tries)' .. interesting fellas. Sounds like fun. Go snatch those girls up guys, don't miss the party.
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Harriett-
Hmm.. he- he, actually no- I wasn't going with that angle attacking women's sexual drive in this question. I was more so- in a roundabout way- asking why it is that guys will accommodate women so much in relationships. It's one thing to wayt 3 years for sex; but the question specified that the boyfriend 'has been trying' to have sex and yet he's still waiting-- and she's still 'making' him wait!!
1)Why would a man/boy do that to himself?
2)Why are women so callous and willing to do this to men?
Once again Harriett, it's one thing if they both don't want sex, but if the guy wants sex (and these women obviously see that these guys are somewhat desperate and afraid they can't do better or get another woman at all)- and the women are basically stringing him along like we see here, I'm saying it's time for guys to wake the hell up and be more proactive in their relationships.
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^^...If these women don't want sex and they feel their boyfriends obviously do, then why not encourage him to go and find someone else who can ultimately make him happier while she does the same? - that's all I'm suggesting
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However Harriet- On the issue of 'women having lesser sexual urges'
I was looking at that 2nd question you posted- look at how much logic and rationalization is being worked through by the woman who asked. "I told him I'd use condoms and bc and he can pull out or do anal etc..." - and the answerers supported her. If a man had said that his gf didn't want to have sex anymore after a pregnancy scare many people would be annoyed at his rationalization "well I told her I'd pull out, and that we can do this and that, and I did the math for her". If a man had made that argument many people (women esp.) would likely feel he were a jerk. I can see it now, " she said she doesn't want to have sex, just respect her wishes and let it go. I'm sure she has her reasons". --- Yes/no?
10 Answers
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
By law, 18-year-olds- can't have sexual relations with 17-year-olds. Even if it is a one year difference, the 17-year-old is still a legal minor. This guy better learn to keep it in his pants.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
How long each person waits in a relationship without sex depends on the person, their ages, prior sexual history - there are benefits to not rushing into it at that age. What do you mean by "long enough"? Some people would become impatient quickly, others not at all. Yes I think it's reasonable for a person to become impatient after 5 months especially if they've had sex before. They either have to deal with that or break up. If they choose not to break up that's why they may be having a 3 year relationship without sex. That sort of thing wouldn't be for me, but I'm not going to judge those who would do it. It doesnt' say how young the second couple are, they could be in a 3 year relationship and still only be 15 or 16.
Harriet
PS If you're trying to use this as something to suggest young women want sex less than young men, I've seen opposite questions.
Source(s): 1) I guess they are "doing it to themselves" because they value the company and happiness of the other person more than sex at that time. Or, they really want sex with that person and want to wait around until it will happen. 2) Because they have to think for themselves as well and if they don't feel ready or don't want to risk pregnancy then they don't have to have sex. They aren't deliberately trying to hurt the guys (I hope), just making their own decision. If the guy can't deal he can break up. If they are doing it just to be callous then definitely break up. - 5 years ago
I'm sorry, but these people sound like idiots to me. I've found that after a few months of not having sex, I've been tighter. Even if it's just a little bit. My boyfriend's said the same thing as well. There are also exercises women do after they've given birth to try & tighten their vagina so it's not super loose. I wish I would've seen this a year earlier so I could've gotten the "Best Answer" lol.
- JoanieLv 51 decade ago
The girl doesn't want to have sex. End of discussion.
And time for him to make a choice.
Either
Agree to her wishes, needs and concerns and show himself as a compassionate honorable and respectful man.
Dump her, go find a slut he can relate to and later be angry at because she's leaving him for some other person or need?
And Pat said it all. It's called statutory rape in some states
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- EBLv 61 decade ago
So the girl is meant to have sex with a guy she doesn't want to? If the guy doesn't like it he can break off the relationship, simple solution. Why does he need to be 'encouraged' to break off the relationship? Doesn't he have a brain?Oddly enough there are actually people who still see sex as something important and meaningful. If the guy can't deal, he should break off the relationship. What's the problem?
- 1 decade ago
It's OK to wait for a while, but surely not for many months or even years. If she does not want, it is better to say good-bye and to look for somebody else.
18 y.o. boy and 17 y.o. girl together is almost everywhere legal worldwide, except in the USA, which has strange moral issues because of rampant radical feminism. Most countries have the legal age of consent around 15/16 y.o. for both boys and girls.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
I dint just have sex with anyone when I was younger but if I liked you then the longest I went before I did it was less than 2 weeks. I dont know anyone in England that waits that long. I have never known anyone wait as long as even a month for sex. Where the hell are you finding these girls?
- Dan ALv 61 decade ago
3 years that's harsh i would have left a long time ago
it may be because she is 17 which is why she is reluctant to have sex if you like her your just going to have to suck it up until shes ready after all it will be her first time girls are emotional that way
Note: also depends what country you are from if you are american then technically you shouldnt since they class it as underage
- steffiLv 61 decade ago
you sound like you feel entitled. because of your age? sexual intimacy should be between two consenting people at ANY age, assuming both are adults. i know what i would do if i were her- you'd be gone.
Source(s): life.
