What to do with a back talking child?

Your either gonna like my answer or hate it. My daughter acted same way still does to a certain extent, but I started putting different things in her mouth when she would lash out or back Talk. I started with mustard, soap, vinegar and hot sauce. She liked the hot sauce she hated the mustard and vinegar. LOL go figure. The one thing I thought she would hate she loved. Your just gonna have to find that one thing she hates and just do it. Whether it be doing stuff like that or something totally different. Hope this helps. It worked for me.

Some of the other answers were good ones. U had better get control now. Taking away all toys could do for a start. My second born was also hard headed and willful. Sometimes that is just who they are as personalities. But your daughter is old enough to understand that U all have to live in the same house. There is also the idea that she could maybe trash her room, but not the rest of the house. I never did make too big of a fuss about my kids private space -- only the general living areas. Good luck.

You're going to have to put aside your happy relationship for a moment until she shows some respect. Its hard but if you really want results, when for example you ask her to put away her toys - instead of asking, say 'you need to have your toys put away before lunch' or in 15minutes - some sort of boundary. If she doesnt or she talks back, don't say anything - just pack them in a box or a garbarge bag and put them away. No words - actions speak louder. It'll be a power struggle and she may only be left with a mattress and a dresser, but she'll get it. Make sure you give her lots of hugs and kisses in the middle of these 'battles' so she'll understand you aren't being mean just that she needs to show you some respect. If its not now, it wont be for at least another 15 years.

It's okay to give your kids choices, it helps make them better people. But there has to be a consequence for not following through with your requests.

We had this problem with our son and at the time he was seeing a counselor for some issues and she told us to use this as discipline:

Ask the child to do something with a specific time set. You have X amount of time or it has to be done by X o'clock. And then if it's not done, give a punishment. You're going to love the punishments ... it's a 15 minute chore than then 30 minutes in the chair. The 15 minute chore should be something that you don't want to do. Yes, your 6 year old can learn to clean the bathroom (we used vinegar and water as a cleaning solution for the kids). If they argue or talk back again add another 15 minute chore but still just 30 minutes in the chair. They can do up to 60 minutes worth of chores but still just 30 minutes in the chair. The time in the chair is just them, staring at the wall. At 6 I would say 20 minutes is enough. For us it was 30 minutes for an 8 year old and an hour for our then-10 year old.

After a time or two the kids get it. You have to follow through on the consequences. We dropped the sitting in the chair thing but the chores are still added up. Cleaning the toilet, cleaning the kitchen floor, being my laundry slave (they hate that one). It's better than grounding them ... grounding them just lets them sit in their comfy rooms with their TV, toys and video games.

Excuse me! who's the boss? I am. I am a parent before a friend. I can make your life miserable or happy. Its all up to you. Every little thing she does wrong you speak to her. Micro parenting kids hate it. Use it to restore discipline but you must catch everything then and there. From how they speak and sit to how they interact with others to how they treat there toys. As she starts to listen back off. The more she behaves the more freedom she gets. As soon as one little thing slides start all over again. No chances no I'm warning you. You are the parent the boss. You can't have a child run your house hold. You don't do anything with any angry tone . Every comment is even and straight. No threats just do it.

Tell her:

Sweetie: The toys shoud be picked up by X time, so I'll be checking back in 10 minutes (get a kitchen timer and set it for the time that you said". Any toy that will be left on the floor will be placed in the trash.

Stick to your guns and it will NEVER happen again.

Good luck

Well, I'm not a parent, but I was a smart mouthed kid. My parents tried the whole "time out" thing; they tried rationally talking and reasoning with me; and they tried grounding me.

Know what finally worked? A sharp slap in the face. I don't mean a black eye or anything extreme, but the shock value put me in my place quickly. And I stayed there for a good while, too. The next time I mouthed off, all my dad had to do was raise his hand. Just showed it to me. That's all it took.

I was a relatively good boy from ages 7 to 17.

(Then things really got weird! lol)

Im not at that stage yet. But I have been through this with my sisters. I would have to watch them everynight while my mom was at work until I moved out of her house 2 years ago.. But my mom's rule was you back talk and you get a pop in the mouth.. It didnt hurt, just our Prides. lol But the rule with cleaning our room is she would give us an hour and if it wasnt clean she would say she would clean it. Now when she cleaned it, Everything that was on the floor or not put in its place, it would get thrown away. She would actually put it all in a black bag and then hide it like in the garage or in her car. But we wouldnt get them back until we have forgot about them. She would put them back in our room when we were at school. But she actually took my sister's toys to the salvation army because she kept finding them and putting them back in her room. My mom knew exactly what toys she took out of our room. Its like she wrote them down or something. Good Luck!

Spank your kid, not in anger, but to nip it in the bud. I have an 11 y/o daughter and she did the same things. It don't work like that, you're the boss not her.

Someone will get mad at me for telling you to spank your kid...your kid will appreciate later and never quit loving you. After I spank her, I give her 10 minutes or so and then go love on her and everything is okay and I always explain to her why she got the spanking and that I still love her.

This video is hilarious - I don't usually use a belt though...funny stuff!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lehavmfKS1M&feature...

Except for the video...hope this helps...

I would say, you either pick up your toys like I ask, or everyone one of them in going in a black bag and you won't see them again.

Works for my 5 year old.

As for the back talking, in my house you give cheek, you go on the naughty chair for 5 mins