What is the best thing to write in a blank card to my friend's daughter?

I think you should acknowledge that you are aware of how serious her health is and that you are thinking of her and hope she is doing well.

One of my daughters was diagnosed with a chronic, debilitating disease, and the people who sent cards tried so hard to be cheerful that we laughed and thought "do they have any idea how serous this is?"

When you have a chronic disease, it is actually a relief to have people acknowledge it and then you feel they really are supporting you through this difficult time.

Then, after acknowledging how serious things are, offer to do something concrete for her -- take her to lunch or the movies, or whatever you think she'd like to do. And, don't just say "if there is anything I can do", but think of something concrete and then do it. If you decide on lunch, say "I'll call you so we can make a definite date for lunch". Hope this all makes sense.

I think what you write would depend on the kind of person she is. I'm sure you want to write something inspiring to make her feel better. Maybe you could look up some poetry by Maya Angelou. You might get some ideas from them. I love the greeting cards she writes. So sorry about your daughters friend, blessings to her.

I am writing to let you know that I think of you so often. Changes and discoveries happen daily in medical science and we never know what is just around the corner. So please keep a positive attitude and do your own research on your disease. We all have things to deal with on a daily basis be it physical, emotional or both. You have a lot of people that love you and will help you in anyway they can and always know that you are in my thoughts.

My son has had a chronic disease since he was twelve. He likes to laugh and joke and be treated as normal. Presumably you are writing to encourage her and not for any specific event such as a birthday. I have sometimes used the Footprints message. It is a Christian message, but I find that it transcends differences of belief and it was particularly well received by a Jewish friend. http://www.footprints-inthe-sand.com/index.php?pag...

I don't think it's necessary to mention the disease, or even how 'brave' she is. This could backfire and make her even more aware of how different she is to healthy children. Just write something nice about what a great girl she is. If appropriate, suggest taking her out for ice-cream or something.

Best of luck!

This is one of my favorites:

May you always walk in sunshine.

May you never want for more.

May Irish angels rest their wings right beside your door.

or this one:

May you have warm words on a cold evening,

a full moon on a dark night,

and the road downhill all the way to your door.

The best thing always, is to keep her in your prayers.

Trust that the Holy Spirit will inspire you and that your message may not be understood by you as well as it will be understood by your friends daughter. The Holy Spirit will move you to convey the message that is needed.

sweetie you are the strongest person i know . to tell you the truth i may be a little jealous of you your so beautiful and smart how much perfect can you be? and i know sometime you may fell down and sad but you always remember god made you the person you are and he don't make mistakes well maybe with say someone funny that will make her laugh.

In situations similar to this one I always write, "Thinking of you with much love."

ok im not going to tel you exactly what to write but make sure you don't mention that she'll have it forever etc. be supportive and tell her she'll be fine and she has your support