Should I still try to concieve, or give up?

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My husband and I have been trying to conceive since we got married in September. I have tried counting days and checking CM and BBT but found an anomaly and went to the doctor for it. They ran a few tests and a pap and it came back abnormal. We will be running more tests, but in the meantime, should my husband and I continue to try or should I give up until after everything is done with the doctor. They haven't told me I can't but if it were you, would you keep trying?

Update:

I should add that I only went in because I had been 15days late and then bled one day as well as having excrutiating pain in my lower abdomen. I didn't go in because we hadn't conceived yet. Just thought I would clarify.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

you should keep trying Mrs. If the doctor didnt say you can't then you should keep trying. I hope it goes your way, I would love to have children one day.

NUGirl. Liam came 6 weeks early! · Answer

With an abnormal pap there are things that they would need to treat that would require drugs that are too strong to be used safely during pregnancy, especially early pregnancy. For this reason alone it would be worth waiting until you have it cleared up. Especially because many of the causes of abnormal paps can be dangerous to the embryo/fetus, (eg BV can cause increased change of miscarriage or premature labor) and so they MUST be treated.

Edit: sorry, I may have misunderstood your question. If they ran fertility tests that came back suggesting you may have some issues conceiving, then I say keep right on trying! but if they ran tests that suggest you may have an infection or problem that could/will be medically treated to clear it up, then I would wait to conceive until it is resolved, as I mentioned above.

EmersonsMom · Answer

In any given cycle a normal healthy couple only has a 25% chance of conceiving.  About 50% of pregnancies end in miscarriage, before you even know you are pregnant.  Therefore, you may have conceived and not even know it.  Most OB's won't even look at it as an issue unless you have been trying for at least a year using Ovulation prediction kits.  Keep trying it is sure to happen, unless one of you has an infertility issue that you don't know about.

Susana F · Answer

Well my question is Why not? what would be the harm in trying? What have you got to lose? if anything u have only something to gain in the meantime that you find out the results. I hope the anamoly is only in the test. Also try getting ur husband checked out as well.

Melise R · Answer

The research shows that MOST people who keep trying do get pregnant on their own.  It may take a while so be patient.  If you get really impatient and don't want to wait, then adopt.  But my guess is that you'll have a baby later on if you just keep trying.  Or if you have the money or your insurance will cover it, try IVF.

SWEETZ2010 · Answer

Yes I would keep trying. I had a miscarriage with my first baby and I ended up having a uterus infection and they told me it would be harder to conceive but five years later I had a beautiful baby girl. Now I have two babies. Don't give up... If God wants it to happen it will..

Anonymous · Answer

I think you shouldn't stress out so much about it. Let things happen as they should! It will happen for you when the time is right! Good Luck!

Anonymous · Answer

yeah i tried giving him time. four and a half days! and yes he called and was nice for ONE day :( should i just not call for longer than that? like two weeks? please let me know
email me with your answer (or just write back on my ? again) 
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lazy · Answer

DONT GIVE UP!! JUST ENJOY EACHOTHER AND WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT IT WILL HAPPEN. HAVE FAITH.

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