Engagement question. How would you feel?

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My older brother just got engaged to his girlfriend back in October. They are getting married in June of 2010.

My boyfriend and I have been talking about getting married for some time now (before my brother got engaged). We (my boyfriend and I) have been together for almost two years, have lived together for one. 

My boyfriend has been hinting at proposing to me sometime this summer. (We have already looked at rings). What I'm wondering is, would be be rude to my brother and his fiance if we got engaged so soon after they did? We want to get married in the Fall (we live in New England so that is the most beautiful time of the year) but we wouldn't get married until 2011 so as not to have our wedding just months after theirs. 

We don't want to wait until they are married to get engaged and start planning. Would you be upset if your sibling got engaged within a year of your engagement?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't be upset at all, I'd be completely happy! Especially if I were your parent, having both of my children find the person the want to spend the rest of their life with!

As long as you guys don't have the same wedding date, I really don't see the problem. 

Besides, the summer is still a few months away. It's not like you're getting engaged a day after they did :)

Good luck and congratulations :)

Izzie · Answer

That's not rude at all. Also, by the time you get engaged it won't really be that soon after your brother. Soon would be like a month after him. I think your family will be happy that the two of you have found the person you wanna spend the rest of your life with! There is no need to wait.

Star · Answer

Nope.  You were considerate and picked a wedding date that isn't close to theirs.  That's the only thing that would have been uncool.  You guys being engaged at the same time isn't a big deal.  Waiting until they're married to get engaged sounds a bit silly.  I seriously doubt they'd mind.

truefirstedition · Answer

No, it's not rude. Your relationship doesn't take a back seat to your brother's. You should get engaged when you and your boyfriend are ready.

jaded · Answer

you win my personal award for good manners!  how considerate and lovely you are!  

you can get engaged anytime you want.  in families of the very best manners, they try to only have one wedding a year, to space out the activities and give everyone a chance at a nice wedding, but engagements can come anytime and in any number. 

congrats!!!!!!  and go cardinals.

bagelgirlie · Answer

i don't think it would be rude. they should be happy for you! it's not like getting married is a contest. i have a friend who got married one week after her brother, and everyone was happy because people just stayed in town for both weddings.

Andi · Answer

I was very happy when I found out my my younger
 brother is getting married -not even a year difference.

Sweet_Di · Answer

my brother got engaged shortly after my boyfriend and i got engaged. i so not see what the big deal is

Live Laugh Love &lt;3 · Answer

No I would be happy for them, and you are giving adequate time and space between the weddings as planned.

RedRabbit · Answer

I don't see how it is rude. Like you said, you are getting married way after them.

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