My wife want to go out drinking on her birthday.Advice please?

first of all, Tanya G is totally wrong. Police Department does not see it that way. Any amount of alcohol is not to be in your system prior to getting behind the wheel of the car.

Second of all, please make yourself as a designated driver or hire a car service, or pay for a taxi cab. Either way, you are the hubby (as i am myself) to make sure your wife and her mother (and/or anybody else that goes with them) to get home safe and sound. After all she is the mother of your kids (if you have any), and she is your wife, the person you wake up to every morning, that is.

First of all I want to commend you on being thoughtful and pretty selfless. I thought that this would be a question on letting her go out drinking at all :)

I think it's pretty old-school to think that it's okay to drink and drive. It's a generational thing I think. But you don't want to seem like you are making a big deal out of this right? You want to be like the cool hubbie who is totally cool with his wife going out for a drink. So you could say something before the big event like 'listen you two girls don't need to worry about a thing for getting to your pub crawl or whatever you have in mind - I'll drive you there and back and be your chauffeur at your very beck and call!

Think of the brownie points. If it's difficult in terms of having to bring your little daughter out in the cold to the car twice etc I would call her a cab to bring her wherever she wants to go and insist (more like a favour, a gentleman who won't take no for an answer) that you'll collect her.

Also if your suggestions go well, I would bring it up some time after the big event and explain why you did that. It's best to fully solve than to simply deter a problem. Tell her that you love her and have a thing about the drinking/driving thing. You worry and this would be a small thing she could do to help you get rid of that worry. I'm sure she would understand that and probably be quite touched by it.

My big deal is that if she has the responsiblity of having a husband and a child what it the big flippin deal with going out and getting wasted. That could be done anytime.

My wife can do anything at anytime if she chooses. But it is couched in normal reality world.

You could make a great meal with wine, set the table and all would be safe. To go out is bull... or has somethig to do with Mom. You could be taking your wife out. So why is her Mom about?

No taxi, no car service and no nothing.

your wife is an adult, and shouldn't need your permission to go out for a few drinks. That being said, since she is an adult, and a mother,she should be responsible enough to know that she needs a designated driver. And if you have to be that, you should either find a babysitter for the kids and go with her, drive her htere and pick her up, or drop her off and have her take a cab home. But she should be able to go out and have fun. If you go with her, you might have some too.

P.S. One drink Does NOT equal drunk.

you should either ask a friend to do it or do it yourself you don't want her out driving even if she only had 2 drinks because if your at home how do you know that's how many she really had? its better to just either drop them off and pick them up or get a friend to do it

If I were in your position, I'd hire a baby sitter rather than a car service and go out with my wife and mother in law. For one thing, I'd want to spend my wife's birthday with her and have some fun. In fact, I'd rather go out drinking with her than her mother going out with her.

Hire a car for the night. It's a great birthday gift and then no one is driving drunk.

If you can afford it, hire a driver to drop them off and pick them up. Better safe than sorry.

This is a tough one. It would be nice to just be able to trust them, but it's clear you can't be sure...so better safe than sorry. I would hire a car service and it can be her birthday present!

They probably shouldnt even go but I doubt that would work. I think you should hire a driver for the night plus she would probably enjoy that.