What heartfelt statement can encourage a person who has lost a son/daughter to suicide?

I don't think that there is anything more than a long, close hug & a "I'm sorry for your loss" and then spend time with them doing small things washing dishes, going shopping .... to ease them back into a normal routine. Make them feel like someone still treats them the same.

I'm pretty sure Congress has finally given mental and physical health parity by law, which is the final word for stigma. I guess like so many other things that we know in our guts are right, it will still take years/generations for the stigma to drop. Far as a statement for encouragement, something Gloria Steinem asked in one of her books comes to mind: "Why do we take the blame more easily than we take the praise," especially in parenting. Don McLean's song Vincent comes to mind too, "This world was never meant for one as beautiful as you." I think it's true too, for surprise suicides of those who gave no intimation, that we can never fully understand another person, just ourselves, and for those who did create doubt before they did it, that nothing we could have said or done could have prevented it, like Spalding Gray.

There are groups out there for relatives/friends of people who have committed suicide. Those will be very helpful to you. Time will help put things in perspective, and realizing there was nothing you could do -- people who want to commit suicide will find a way, no matter what.

I'm with Ron. My best friend committed suicide in 1999 and it still haunts me. I still find myself feeling guilty even though it wasn't my fault. However, no amount of rationalizing, explainging, etc. can help. So many people would say "Well, his pain is over now" or "He's in a better place." That only ticked me off; people say that to make themselves feel better, not to make the bereft person feel better.

The best thing that happened for me was a friend who wrote me a card that said "This really sucks." I knew that she understood and that made me feel better.

particular, I even have been suicidal. even inspite of the incontrovertible fact that, I even have worked with the aid of those emotions, using fact it would be incredibly selfish of me to off myself. I even have in no way lost all people to suicide, yet my father tried suicide a pair cases whilst i became incredibly youthful. He survived it. the 1st time, a hunter got here upon him after he had ingested an entire bottle of pills. He had his abdomen pumped and became stored under psychiatric fact, and placed on a distinctive cocktail of anti-depressants. Then whilst i became approximately my daughter's age, and he became working as an RN on the final well-being facility, he took a defibrillator to his head and placed it on finished. not long after, a coworker got here upon him. He had to have a hollow drilled in his head to alleviate the rigidity. He survived an entire 23 years after that final incident. He kicked the bucket in February of 2011. i think of God stored Him. My dad theory so, too.

You were given the life you were strong enough to live. (name) was too good for this world we live in, and chose you to share his/her time on the earth with. Feel lucky you were given such a blessing in your life, even for a short time, and know that your child is in a better place now.

Some people just lose their way. It doesn't mean that you were in any way responsible or didn't do enough to help them realize that their life was indeed a shining light in the lives of people around them. That's what I would say.

It saddens me that they couldn't find peace in their lives. Peace enough to realize, that they were worth saving.

be there to do the mundane things and by all means, share your little upsets with them to let them know they are needed! I hate it when nobody will tell you any of their troubles because 'they don't compare with what you are going through'!

Keep their life as normal as possible and just be there. You don't have to say anything--hugs work!

well in the video that was dedicated to aaliyah dmx said something like "you are really going to be missed here but I can see why God would want you close to him...because you truly were an angel on earth."

there's only this one..."I'm here for you if you need me"....

there's nothing any of us can say or do that will do anything to ease the mind and heart of a parent when a child has taken that road or anyone, really........ just hug them .... and mean it when you say that ....