PLEASE help us with our cat!! PLEASE!!!!?

Dom,

Some cats do not like to be held. Plain and simple. They may feel confined, and cats do not enjoy that sensation. Cats are also very adept at picking up people's feelings and the more anxious you are about your cat's "negative" behavior, the more likely it will be that he will not warm up to you in the way you feel he should. He is sitting next to you because he enjoys your company, otherwise he would not approach you at all. Some cats are just not lap cats, they are "sitting near you" types. Try to accept your cat's personality the way it is, and not try to change him. The more you accept, the more he will appreciate and love you.

It sounds like your cat needs more exercise to release his pent up energy. He is very young. Ragdolls and Persians are famous for great dispositions, but they mature very slowly. Kitten energy can be quite aggrevating for some folks, but with age, he should mellow. Get some interactive toys, such as feathers on a pole (feline feather flyers) a laser pointer ( used very cautiously not to get the beam into the cat's eyes- you can blind them),some furry mice toys and also a cat tree at least 5 feet tall, made of sisal and carpet,with shelves and tunnels. Just know that all scratching posts are not created equal. Cats need to be able to stretch out their entire bodies for the post to be appropriate and used. Carpet only covered posts are useless.

Before you go to bed, play strenuously with your cat for about 15 -20 minutes. Feed him a bed time snack afterwards. A full belly makes for good sleep, and hard play will tire him out as well.

Indoor cats live a lot longer than those that are permitted outdoors unsupervised.

But mainly, I think your kitty is telling you something, that he feels somehow, unaccepted. Crating a cat really is not a good idea. They are not dogs, and do not feel secure crated. They only feel confined.

I would recommend that you purchase a book on feline behavior. Pam Johnson's books on the subject are excellent. She has several that are really worth the read.

http://www.amazon.com/Twisted-Whiskers-S...

Hope this helps,

Troublesniffer

Owned by cats for over 40 years

Freelance writer/blogger for http://www.petside.com/the-sidewalk

Thats gotta be a male... and an unfixed male.. Trust me you can never keep them home.. they will go where the food is and where the ('scuze me ) where the pussy is.. they are wanderers.. thats a fact.. male cats unless fixed and well fed dont really belong to anyone person.. they are community cats.. LOL (I laugh but its totally serious) Male cats (even neutered ones) are VERY territorial and have a specific pecking order... (the one that can kick every other males *** estabilishes his territory.. no thats not a joke) Younger male cats are notorious fighters.. and establish a range of territory fixed or not.. and like real life.. if there are femals involved.. well fixed or not.. they will fight and establish a range... house cats have about a 5 block range.. Cougars have a 30-100 mile range.. cats are cats.. what can i say? and males are males... Really thats not unusual at all... just better keep yer eye on yer husband LOL they arent much better (again semi serious.. better feed him good hehehe) There is an old saying.. Dogs have owners.. CATS have Staff...

Wow. This is a tough one. First of all take him to the vet and get this pooping blood thing checked out. Also, he may be stressed or upset about something. Have you changed his litter? Have you changed his food? Was he just recently taken away from his mother? Now for him hating you he may be concerned that you're going to hurt him. When you're with him do you move a lot or crouch down and get up a lot? It scares cats when someone moves a lot. If you just ignore you're cat and pay no attention to him whatsoever, he will start trusting you more. Hope this helps. :D

I think it's great you haven't given up on him yet! He may still come around and be the best pet ever! As far as toys go, have you tried a laser pointer, my guy was always wearing me out with his constant desire to play! I bought him a laser pointer and he loved it more than anything else (Careful not to shine it in his or YOUR eyes though!). I could sit around a watch TV while shineing the pointer on the floor/walls. The cat would go nuts trying to catch it until it would just be so worn out and tired, it would just go right to sleep.

Also, if you are uncomfortable having him declawed, there are other ways to deal with the scratching. Even a declawed cat will still want to scratch the furniture...it's instinct. It is now considered by many as cruel to have them declawed, but you can have tiny, bead-like things glued to it's nails to prevent the scratching from damaging your furnishings. It is near impossible to stop the "scratching-post" behavior though.

Good Luck!

if Louie is "pooping" blood for any reason, he needs to go to the vet. If he is uncomfortable because of a physical ailment, he won't be in the best mood.

He needs a scratching post or scratching pad. He needs to be left alone because you are irritating him. Some cats are not lap cats and prefer to sit next to you and let you pet them. Let Louie be himself. He does not hate you at all. He loves you.

Just read your additional comments. Sorry, I had to laugh. This is one really needy cat that know how to get YOUR attention. He's smart too!

Good for you for not just throwing him out on the street.

Ditto on taking him to the vet immediately. My cat goes outside and eats grass but she doesn't poop blood. This could have something to do with his mood.

If he's been like this from the start ask the people you got him from if he was like this to them. (At least you it isn't just you.) Also find out if he was socialized before you got him. If he was in a shelter or pet store they might have just left him in the cage and never played with him. If he was from a breeder then they should get in trouble for breeding cats and sending them to owners unsociable.

I'm not sure what kind of toys you've gotten him. But you could try a bunch of different toys and see what he likes. My cat likes the mice that you can get about a dozen for a couple of dollars. And strings, boot laces, etc. It might be he has a lot of energy he needs to get rid of and it just comes out as aggression.

Is he neutered? Sometimes cats will calm down once they are fixed.

You can also find a treat he likes. and bait him closer to you until eventually he's on your lap. Even then let him sit there until he is extremely comfortable, (that may take a many many times of letting him sit on your lap, if it even gets to that point)make an attempt to pet him.

This may also be just a cat that just doesn't like to be rubbed, etc. I've had one who was one of the types she would let you pet her when she wanted to but as soon as you rubbed her one too many times she scratched and ran off your lap.

I hope everything works out. I bet he is a beautiful cat.

If he is not neutered then he should be. Please keep him inside. An indoor cat is happier, healthier and a better companion.

Also, you might consider that he needs a friend. Perhaps he is bored and friend might be very welcome. A older kitten male or female would be a good choice.

Our young male was really getting out of hand until we brought home "Grace Kelly". Now Tommy is too busy having fun with Gracie to be a problem.

good luck!

From what I've been reading from the other contributors, Your cat seems to be very bored. The maturity level of Persion's is evident also.I hope for the best.

Well my one cat i had would just hide under the bed all day and night. (she has alittle feral in her) So we just lured her out with food and pat her and kept her happy and healthy but she ended up running away... she went up a tree and wouldn't come down then we had to go to sleep (it was late) and she was out of the tree and never to be seen again... sad really

Crate training, you're kidding, right?

Put some soft paws on him to save your couch.

Get a dog if you want to cuddle.