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when to step back from 19 yr old daughter?
my girl is 19, has a 7month old baby,on and off relationship with the babys father who has just recently become violent with her, resulting in 2 domistic abuse charges against him. she still wants to be in touch with him, because he is the babys father(ya right) anyways, i was beat on for 10 years....she seen all this, she knows what its all about. when do i stop trying to fight her battles when she wont even fight for herself? she says that was in the past, she knows it could happen again but is hopeing it wont. i cant keep trying to convince her. shes not a stupid girl... just blind with him
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- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
unfortunately there is not much that you can do outside of trying to talk her out of being with him. As you probably know that if put up with it for 10 years that she is going to trust that he will not do it again because he is the father and she is going to hope that everything gets better. Outside of professional counseling I am not sure what you could try, but if you could talk her into that I would say that is about your only chance...good luck with that
- 1 decade ago
It's more of a 'how to' as to 'when to'
You're always going to 'want to' help your daughter.
I really don't think you're going to be able to do much beyond let her decide on her own at this point.
Sometimes we have to use acceptance when 'disciplining' or parenting in this situation. Especially when it's something you can't control. You have to accept that the situaution is not yours to control at this point.
She's an adult, she will do what she wants.
Hopefully she will open her eyes before anything more happens.
Source(s): 12, 10, and 7 year old daughters and a 5 year old son. - Anonymous1 decade ago
Stop now.
There is no use in stressing yourself out.She WILL learn eventually.
The only suggestion I have is keep an eye on her (without saying anything) just in case you notice bruises and such and then call the cops on him.
She will continue to act stupid until she wakes up.Too many girls are blind until its too late and they realized that they have wasted a good portion of their lives on idiots who were not worth their time.
I'm sure you have done your motherly duties...not it is up to her.
Good luck.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Unfortunatly, the only thing you can do is make sure she is aware of the risks, and is aware of the resources available if she decides she wants help. Its sad, and I know it kills every once of being in you to let it go. However, until she wants it, there is nothing you can do to help.
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