Did anyone see Tonight's episode of ER?

My wife watched, but frankly, I've seen so few treatments of adoption done well on television that ultimately I had to leave the room. It sounds like it went as badly as I expected it to. Maybe worse, even. Ugh.

"Do you think the fact the Adoptive Mother nearly died for the wrong blood type was a legitimate Scare Tactic that was designed to effect Change in the attitude?"

She isn't the adoptive mom. She is the sister of the bio dad who ran and left the child. She acted as her mother, but nothing was ever done legally, which was discussed in a prior episode. I'm not sure how the wrong blood type played a part in the story line of her not knowing the truth, other than it came up in discussion....which could've come up in any setting, to be honest.

"Or do you think the point of Telling a Child the truth was Lost Completely with all the Drama of the Dr's Desire to Adopt?'

Actually, the dr didn't want to adopt. She may want to in another episode, but she didn't through the one last night. Her husband brought up adoption, but she was against it. However, the girl made a comment on her views of what a mother really is, which might change the dr's attitude about adoption in the future.

I think children have a right to know where they came from, for both their physical and mental well-being.

The 'ER' situation is definitely a complex one, and frankly, I was too distracted by Angela Basset's character's attitude toward adoption to think about the way that they had written in the story about the girl.

I think that the intention is to present all of the concerns that people have about adopting children, and that the girl's role is to oppose them, by showing that those concerns shouldn't really matter in the long term. It's in direct contrast to the doctor's needs. She has to control everything, especially after the death of her son, that she sees adoption as another way of giving up that control she has build up over her life. She is developing this ridiculous way of having another child, doing everything she can to make every decision, and I think ultimately it will be shot down.

She is continuously presented with these family situations that are bad and make her question her own decisions (a month ago it was that foster child situation). Confronting the doctor with a girl who doesn't know about her past is an intentional contrast, meant to develop her character more. Whether or not the situation is reflecting a certain attitude isn't the point. Yes, it is outrageous to those of us who are personally connected to adoption. But this type of situation happens, unfortunately. I think that the storyline will reach a point where the overall attitude towards adoption is presented positively, and where the common viewer will agree that the show is definitely suggesting that everyone should know where they came from. Even if we're not necessarily seeing that now.

Technically, the situation wasn't an adoption. The brother left his daughter with the mother (his sister, not the bio mom) - and no adoption ever took place. The sister then just raised her as her own.

I don't think it made a comment either way on telling the child the truth - but it could and should have.

I think that either the show's writers are so intelligent, they put the storyline above the heads of average people, or they're so ignorant that they condone how that adoption happened.

It also pointed out how telling the child the truth from day 1 is important. Kids know in their hearts if they're adopted I think. I also think that the way you raise them, with love and understanding, and truth, that they will make up their own minds whether or not how attached they are. I know grown adoptees who love their adopted parents VERY much, even though they have reunited, and I know natural kids who hate their parents.

hmm tough answer but id go with yea

argh i didnt watch it but i dont like that attitude