How to get along with the ex-wife?

Just ignore the ex and keep on having a good relationship with the kids.

.The ex has issues and still thinks that everything is about her and she cannot be happy for her children because she is so miserable.

In this situation you are dammed if you do and dammed if you don't so don't give one thought to what she thinks or feels about anything.

Make it the best of times when the kids are around you even if the ex cannot get over herself.

Eventually these children will grow up and feel what that want to feel about you even if mom doesn't like it.

It's called jealousy.

Also, just remember that YOU have the right to have "the last laugh" because in the end he saw how she is too and picked YOU, not her, so... there is a good possibility here that she knows that and it has hurt her pride and when people's pride gets hurt they often lash out and try to demean the other person in order to make themselves feel better.

The best thing you can do here is "be the bigger person" in terms of not engaging in her pettiness. Speak well of her, don't get involved in returning her insults, etc. and just be a model for why the reality is the way it is, namely that in the end the position you are in, the wife, is due to the fact that you conduct yourself in a more mature and healthy manner. I think that the way you carry yourself will be the "unspoken" proof that speaks louder than words.

Good luck.

No, you are not doing anything wrong. The ex is jealous that the kids have another woman in their life is all. Be the bigger person and say nothing. If she says something to your face, say, "Well, I'm sorry you feel that way. I am trying to establish a relationship with the kids and I wish you wouldn't try to put a stop to it." and leave it at that. Other than being confronted directly by her, it is your husband's responsibility to diffuse his ex.

You're not doing anything wrong. You need to tell your husband to speak with his ex-wife and tell her to chill out with the craziness. You're married to him now and she has a problem with the new girl. That's it. That's all. She's jealous. She probably doesn't even want you around her children yet alone doing their hair. Maybe you could try having a heart to heart with her.

Welcome to the role of second wife hun. I am not a second wife but he was engaged before and his family thinks I do nothing right and I can't please them. They've even told me they were disappointed he married me and not her. You aren't doing anything wrong. Some people just don't want to let go of the past especially if they liked it. She probably had a lot of control over him that she lost when you came along. Some women are just hateful.

First off britster your first answer i have kids im not a bastard you b*tch . Ha haa anyway no your not doing a thing wrong she just still loves your husband is all taking it out on you because she feels your the problem . Don't stoop to her level be the better woman. After all you have him she lost

Ex-wives can be very difficult! I rally dislike my hubby's ex-wife because of the way she acts so she is just not allowed to call here so I don't have to deal with her crapola in my own home. By the way, hubby's kids are grown young women.

Mary in Camden, MI

There may be nothing you can do to please the ex. She is just upset that you are with him and she is the ex. She just wants to make sure that the new girlfriend dos not look good in the eyes of the kids. They may end up liking you more.

No your not doing anything wrong. The ex sounds like she is just worried that you are trying to take her place as a mother. Ignore her remarks and just keep reassuring your husbands kids that you love them as you own but remind them also that you are not taking their moms place

No most likely she feels you are getting attention from the kids that's meant for her. Just back down a little and give her a little more time. She will likely come to accept you as their step mother in time.