Losing the Baby Weight?

Yikes! It shouldn't matter what you look like or how much extra weight you're carrying around less than a year after having a baby!!! Your husband married you for better or for worse. Was keeping your high school body a vow you made in front of your family and friends when you got married? Your husband is being selfish, immature and materialistic. I'm sorry I don't mean to offend you, but your husband should be thankful for having a beautiful healthy baby girl and he should be thankful that he has a beautiful healthy wife to be an amazing mother to his baby. Ok, now that I said my bit about that, I would highly recommend T-Tapp for getting your pre baby body back. Its a low impact workout that you can do at home and you can see results quickly. They have a great forum that is very helpful and supportive. There is even a mommy fitness group. It seems like this would be a good thing to help motivate you and give you positive support rather than threatening you with divorce. This is the only workout that I have found that works quickly and doesn't require going to the gym for hours everyday. It's really good for whittling your middle!

My daughter is now 15 months old and I've only recently started trying to get rid of the last 20 pounds that have been hanging on. For about the last 2 weeks I've been counting calories and sticking to a limit. I've lost 4 pounds so far! I found a free online tool that keeps track of my calories (it also can track your weight and activity) and you can even search for the calories of things you don't know. It's the about.com calorie counter and food log (sorry I don't have a link!). Also I came across a tool that told me how many calories I needed to maintain my current weight or to lose weight (based on my height, weight, age, etc.). I don't even remember where I found that; I just googled "how many calories do I need" and it came up.

As for your hubby, shame on him for saying such a thing. Husbands have no idea what full time mommies go through and they shouldn't put added stress (about weight, of all things) on us! I'm sorry that your husband feels the way that he does. I hope that y'all will be able to work it out (i.e., that he gets an attitude adjustment!).

I can't believe he would say that to you!!!

My husband tells me near every day that he thinks I'm sexy or beautiful. When I chide him for it he says it's beautiful because it helped create our baby. Despite that, I'm trying to lose the extra baby weight and the extra weight that I was in the middle of taking off when I got pregnant. It was just my luck to be doing well, lost almost 40 lbs and then gain it all back again because I got pregnant.

I just got some belly dancing dvds, they came in the mail today so I'm going to give those a try. I got them from this website: http://www.centralhome.com/ballroomcountry/bellyda...

I got the one called Discover Bellydance with Michelle Joyce the 3-pack. It's got 3 dvds in it, an introduction one, a fat burning one, and a strength and toning one. Got some hip hop ones, and they have pregnancy ones too. Lots of great exercise dance videos!

I recommend that you get yourself and your husband to a marriage councilor. Your husband's anger is out of proportion. He had unreasonable expectations and so do you. Your body may not ever look the same - some women never get back that flat tummy - even if they lose all the baby weight and then some. Plus, it took you 9 months to put that weight on - it will take you at least that long to get it off. It sounds to me like you need to work more on your marriage than on your body.

Keep the weight, LOSE the man!

Divorce him and LOSE the weight of HIM, that should put you way under your pre-pregnancy weight ..

How dare he say that to you. You gained that weight because you provided a HEALTHY environment for HIS child for 9 months. What's HIS excuse for going on a diet?

If he loved you, he'd love you no matter what your weight is. If he's alredy threatening divorce because of your WEIGHT, then your marriage isn't based on LOVE. People are supposed to marry for LOVE, not for appearance purposes.

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Did you punch your husband in the face when he said that?! What a jerk! My husband gained weight when i was pregnant too, so we are both exercising and working out together, and encouraging each other to stick to it.

Unfortunately, you can't tone down without losing weight. Don't let your husband make you feel this way. You lose however much weight you want to lose and tone down and get a sexy body for YOU, not for him.

Wow...I will answer your question but if i were you, i would be questioning my marriage. He will divorce you if your not skinny enough? Nice...

You will probably never get your old body back. Your body shape has changed for good now. Do LOTS of situps, running, vigourous training will get your body looking firmer.

Plus, 5 months is not plenty enough time to get back to your old shape...it took you 9 months to get where you are now!

I would recomend getting a personal trainer. They will be able to focus on your problem points and get to work with them.

Oh, and wii fit is the best!!!

I have split with my babies father for reasons id rather not go into but he always said i was beautiful no matter what. And he loved my post pregnancy body for the fact of my body was the reason we have a beautiful healthy daughter. And he also said that people who cringe or degrade women with stretch marks or changed body shapes after having a baby needs to give their head a shake and grow up and be welcomed to reality.

we cant all be like the celebrities you know?

I think you should sit your hubby down and have a serious chat!!

Honey you'll NEVER look the same again. Your hips are wider now and will stay that way. Your husband is a shallow SOB who is totally unrealistic! You shouldn't put up with that! No my husband isn't concerned because he's sensible and knows that a woman's body permanently changes after child bearing. He thinks I'm still sexy.

OMG that was very mean off him you should not let him talk to you that way my husband was just recently deployed to afghanistan and was very supportive of my weight after I had our son he tells me I have a beutiful body I just have to loose a little bit of weight in my stomach area but he has never ever told me anything mean about my size.

"He told me 5 months is plenty of time to get back to my pre baby body."

Really?! Well, isn't he the oracle.

Took you nine months to gain the weight, and unless you work at it with extreme diligence, it can take a LOT longer than that to get rid of it.

"He informed me that if I didn't look the way I did when he met me which was senior year of high school 5 years ago) within 2 years he will divorce me."

Nice. Maybe you should inform him that your body changed as a result of carrying HIS child, and it's not high school anymore.