What should I say about wandering thighs?

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My friend texted me this morning with a confession. He has been dating someone for about 4 months in a long-distance relationship. He likes the guy...but...this weekend they could not get together. On Sunday he met with friends for brunch and after brunch went back to a friends place to spend some time and they, well, ya' know, did ... stuff. This friend of his has been an occasional hook-up for my friend in the past, but they have never dated. I am not going to pretend that this was an "accident." But my friend is feeling quite guilty and I promised to call him tonight to discuss this. So, what should I advise him to do? Confess to the boyfriend? Never go to brunch again? What would you say to a guilty friend?

MP: On a scale of 1 to 10, rate my friend's transgression...where 1 = no infraction and 10 = capital felony.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'm trying to work out where the 'wandering thighs' bit comes in.

It all depends on how serious his relationship is. It's a little understandable when the relationship is long-distance. People get lonely.

Then again, if he embarks on a relationship that is long distance, he should know that and accept that he's going to have lonely nights.

Be faithful or be with someone else basically.

Anonymous · Answer

I think I like Hotch's answer about 'Be faithful or be with someone else basically.' 
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To further elaborate, I think he needs to know that a long distance relationship is most based upon trust and loyalty. We all know that if we don't have our beloved one around, we'd sneak a peek at someone else for the time being, or maybe even have a one night stand (not saying that  I myself would, or anyone else), but sadly, that is how it is in today's society. We let our lack of mentality take over us and we do stupid things, but that's not to say we should cheat on our partners, regardless if it's LDR or not.
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He, your friend, put himself into a situation that clearly he knew the consequences of, no physical contact, hence, LDR. For him to go behind his boyfriend's back and do that, that's pretty much, immoral, or pathetic (again, I'm not saying he is, but the act he participated in). 
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Also, to throw you into the middle of something that clearly was not your problem to begin with is wrong. I suggest you 'talk' or text him back about all the things his boyfriend could be doing behind his back, and see if he retaliates to that. Then I suggest you get him to tell his boyfriend.

Jay · Answer

Ive been in this same situation,but I refrained myself from ruining my LDR with my lover. I will stay faithful, for I know my boyfriend is truly faithful to me. You will know if you are truley in love because you will know what is the most honest thing you should do. You do not need to rate his wrongs or rights, he will just need to find in his heart what he really wants and make his own choices. Distance does not matter if two hearts are loyal to one another,with that being said he should start now by taking these true steps of faith.

ambientdiscord · Answer

i don't put much merit into a relationship where people have never actually met.

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