Maid of Honor/ Matron of Honor?

If she wants to be a maid in the programs, let her. And lets say that "maid" is a general term that does not distinguish between single and married ladies.

I hate being called "Aunt" and remind my nieces and nephews all the time to just call me by my first name. I believe that names, and titles, are up to the person and everyone should follow their wish!

She is a MATRON of honor, and if she wanted to be a maid, then she should have thought about getting married first LoL.

I hate to sound mean or brash, but if you want to put on the programs that she's the matron, do it. It's right. If she had a kid would she have a problem being called a mom? She's married, that makes her a matron.

I have my sister who is my maid of honor, and my friend who's married, who is my matron of honor. They don't have a problem with it...

I always thought matron sounded beautiful and strong...

Well, it's YOUR wedding not hers. If you want to call her your matron of honor then call her that. However, I'm sure most people are well aware that she's married so I don't see the big deal of putting down Maid of honor instead. then again you may get the annoying relatives making a big deal out of it cause some people are just that way but may be you should sit down and talk to her about it and find out why the word matron bothers her so much.

I would just put Maid of Honor: -------. Leave out the Ms. or Mrs. and do the same with the bridesmaids. Just list them :

Maid of Honor: Carol Channing

Bridesmaid: Denise Austin

Bridesmaid: Carrie Underwood

This way no ones feelings get hurt and you will save yourself a headache.

You have so many other details to tend to don't let this issue take up too much of your time.

Best Wishes!

Technically, matron is correct, but it can have a negative connotation. Your friend feels uncomfortable with it, so you should honour that. No one else will know or care. It would be insensitive to print "matron of honour" because she's expressed how she feels about it...it's like asking her to wear a fur stole when she's anti-fur (that's quite a bit more extreme, but you get my drift). And it's a small request that you can easily accommodate.

"Maid of honour" flows better anyway!

That's fine- I don't blame her for not wanting to be a "matron." It sounds so, well, matronly, like she's your fat old aunt Margaret instead of a young 20-something newlywed. That whole maid/matron thing is so old-fashioned, anyway- just give her the title that makes her feel better about herself. I wouldn't want to be a "matron" either!

You can use either if you want to on the programs. Nobody really minds or cares except for the really picky people.

I decided against them both and wrote "Lady of Honor" instead. That would be perfect because it doesn't distinguish between married/unmarried or age.

I also think it's more modern. Afterall, men are known as best"men" and grooms"men". So why shouldn't the women be "ladies" and not "maids?"

For the bridesmaids (if any) you could write "bride's attendant" or stick with "bridesmaid."

Yeah it's fine to call her the Maid of Honor. Usually both terms are used if there is one of each. But if you only have the one, it's fine to just use Maid.

Yes,....Matron conjures up some big old lady with control issues! I HATE it when shope staff call me Madam....I think of that as a term for older women! Let her be what you want...Maid is fine!

It's not a big deal so I would just list her as maid of honor just to avoid any issues.