I love mi Fiance but there's some issues. What should I do?

Duno what is like in America but that seems a bit extreme being engaged for 2 1/2 years.Not sure if u meant he had cheated before but he seems to be a flirt and you cant change that part of him. If he has cheated and that was the issue with work you should not be with him.

Its quite handy to live with your partner from the start but risky. you have obviously been very close over the years but are u still 2gether for convenience or love.

If it is just convenience then you should probably leave him as you have a great chance of meeting someone new at school or work.

If its love then you need better communications confront him and tell him what you have heard. Tell him that he needs to sort his life or he will lose you forever. Its best to have things in the open and not hide your worries.

Good luck

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If it doesn't feel right to you AND you have proof on camera of him being an insensitive jerk, why give him the time of day? He got fired for a reason, and if they don't want to tell you why...I suspect it does have something to do with that girl. He sounds REALLY immature and it sounds like you have more than tried to make this work, even to the point of letting yourself be walked on. It's not right and you need to look out for yourself. I know it's hard to let go of a long term relationship...4 years is a long time! But, it would be way worse to stay together for another 4 years, find out he's cheating, not get married, have no children and he's sitting there with no job and no education. You can do WAAAAAYYYY better...so do it! You may have started out on the same page when you started your relationship, but obviously you have different goals now. That's not a bad thing...you are growing up and he's regressing, don't hold yourself back for this jerk. Good luck!!

Red flags of a useless bozo:

-He only has a High school diploma (puag!) An uneducated man will guarantee you financial strugle forever. A girl has to have standards.

-He wants to ge married "someday". Sorry to break the news to you, but "someday" is not a date nor a serious commitment or even considered an engagement. He is only saying that to keep you in his bed and for you to continue to give hime sex, cook, clean and pay the rent.

-His misconduct an work got him fired. Hello?????

-He's after other women, he is a cheating pig.

Anyone deserves better than an unemployed, cheater, ignorant, loser. Kick that waste of air to the curb.

Good luck

It sounds like to me he is confused on what he really wants and when people talk about marriage they get scared and they feel trapped in my opinion I will never get married we have a high % of divorces and what causes divorces is marriage in this world. anyways why not just be boyfriend and girlfriend and say your married in your minds what is the difference a piece of paper from the court? I don't pay attention to any of that garbage anyways. And if he can't come to you about anything it will not work NO... communcation is the number 1 key to work a relationship out you have to talk it out and understand each other and try to solve the problem

Absolutely not, It seems to me like there is more to the story then he is telling you. Yal been 2gethr for 4 years and living 2gether 4 years,(did he just need a roof over his head?) ,you are engaged but he says he will marry you oneday, he dont have a job, he dont want kids, he dont want to go to school. WHAT DO HE WANT TO DO? Why did you two move in together so quickly? IDK, sounds fishy, be careful and watch your heart.

Let's see...

a.)

You caught him on camera being very close to another woman

b.)

Rumor has it that he got fired for touching a girl the wrong way

Wow! I need a fiancee like you! That way I can get away with having some fun!

Sorry, but you need to drop kick this guy through the uprights or kick him to the curb (your choice)!

You can do better than him!

There's no incentive for the guy to marry you. You may argue:

a.)

Well, he could have regular sex with me. [He already gets that.]

b.)

Someone will be there to cook for him. [He already gets that too.]

c.)

Well, someone will be there to do his laundry. [He already gets that.]

d.)

He will have someone to take care of the house. [He's got that too.]

e.)

He will have someone he can connect with emotionally. [He already gets that.]

WHERE'S THE INCENTIVE?

Men use a lot of logic in their decisions in life. Please, try to look at it from a guy's point of view. Think about what's involved in getting married:

1.)

He makes the effort to decide if he wants to spend the rest of his life with you.

2.)

He then spends time in researching for an engagement ring.

3.)

Then he spends the $$$ to get the ring. Think about it. Most guys think of a ring as, "I can buy a car with that money!" But if he's willing to let the $$$ leave his wallet because he wants you to be happy flashing your ring to your girlfriends, he must be serious.

4.)

Then you plan for the wedding:

a.) Order cake (color, size, taste testing)

b.) Invitation cards (what should we write?)

c.) Guest lists (who to invite, who not to invite)

d.) Research DJ's or bands

e.) Research best church, chapel, or hall (food testing)

f.) Which minister to use

g.) Seating charts for the reception.

h.) Writing vows to recite them in front of friends and family because he wants to show everybody he is SERIOUS.

i.) Go through premarital counseling to be sure that you both have the skill sets for the long haul.

j.) Goes through the stress of sending out invites, dealing with future in-laws, etc.

Yaaaaaaaaaaa! TMW = Too Much Work!!!!!!

*BUT* if a woman lives with him: HAH! He doesn't have to do items 1 thru 4a-j.

That's why I tell all my lady friends. Date a guy for a certain amount of time, but not too long. The relationship must be moving forward. If not, time to dump him.

Unfortunately, I know several lady friends of mine who dated guys for too long, now they're out of child bearing range. They blame the guys, but some of the blame needs to go back on them.

Who chose the guy?! Who was the one who waited to see if the situation would change?! The guy hemmed and hawed, but the gal blames the guy for wasting her time?! Puhleaaaaze!

She should dump his a$$ if the relationship isn't moving forward.

Young lady, BEWARE! A guy will waste your time easily if you let him!

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He is not serious about the relationship.

Is pretty sad that just is waisting your time.

Since he has all that a men could want... why get married?

I believe you need to find someone else that really cares.

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If you already have doubts, it's not going to work. Sounds like the dude has no ambition and guys like that only hold you back.

Do you trust him enough to believe him? Can you get past your doubts? If not, as bad as it may hurt, you should leave