I'm desperate to move out.... but I'm scared to leave?

Your family is important... don't get me wrong.

However you can't let them hold you back. You're old enough that you need to decide what you plan to do with your life and start working towards that.

Figure out a career path and try to roughly calculate what going to school (trade, college, etc.) will cost you both financially and time wise. Then you just resolve whether or not you could survive like that. If you can't stay at home and maybe drop a job so you can enroll in classes somewhere. Explain to your family you can only contribute so much. Also it GREATLY benefits you to have a RELIABLE, TRUSTWORTHY, RESPONSIBLE friend as a roommate for your first apartment.

It's cool you're really try to help your family out, but they have to be allowed to help themselves to a degree as well.

Good luck.

i think you should sit down with the family and work out all the bills and make a set amount that you will pay and no more. stop paying sisters phone bill buy food daily to stop her eating everything. set up a work rota. get brother to put in as much as you, and if they don't, refuse to put another penny into the household and tell them you are going because You are not responsible for keeping them. you give them the options and when you move out it will be because of them and you can say so. you are only making it easy for them to be lazy and irresponsible good luck.

It is not your job to prop up your family. As long as you do, you're just making it possible for them to continue being irresponsible.

I get it that you don't want to create friction. This doesn't have to be an ugly scene: you've decided you're ready to have your own place. Find a little apartment in a good neighborhood; close to work if possible. Create a budget for yourself and figure out how you'll cover your bills on what you earn. Let your mom know you'll be moving out on your own. And then do it. You'll be fine.

You sound like you are capable of making it on your own i understand you thinking about your family 1st, but u also need to allow yourself the opportunity to find yourself..just because you move out doesnt meant that you wont help them when possible, so much help available for pp that need it y not take advantage of that it will take some of the burden off of you..

good luck

and dont allow this to discourage you from cont your education, if you dont get eduated then how will you help them?

I think you can make it on your own because you have been helping your family for so long. Your family is taking advantage of you. Get out of there.

Make up a strict budget for yourself and stick to it. You can do this. Don't let your family ruin your life. Your sister and brother will have to help out when you leave. And if they don't, then your mom should leave them. She is enabling them anyway, so it would be good for her to get on with her life too.

You sound like a girl with her head on her shoulders and one who has ambitions to better her life. If you stay where you are, that won't happen.

Good Luck to you

Join the military, you won't have to worry about making it on your own (because they take good care of you) and play like you aren't running FROM them, you are running TO the military. They can't be that mad, and they'll probably hope you'll be able to send them more cash. Don't do it, but use that to sell it to them.

I reccommend the Navy or Air Force unless you are hardcore. Goodluck.

Well it is hard to leave home . The easiest way is to just go.

It seems your siblings are just using you as a crutch, when

they see you move out, that will motivate them to work for

themselves and move out also. You can still be supportive to

your family and not live with them.

Just tell them you need to try to get your own life on the right track. I doubt they would hate you for trying. 22 is a good age to step out the door and see a bit of real life, be it good, bad, hard or easy; someday you gotta live your life.

they r getting scared to leave u because they can not helpthemselves.

u better leave the house.

Let them learn hou u r working hard for them

i dont say why do u care if they r not caring abt u

u should not show ur responsibility for them as they dont have any options except depending on u.

u should care abt hou to bring change in them

so leave ur house n teach them hou to care themselves

what a good mind that you have, family are very important but at some point in life you have to think for your self, talk it with your mum and be plan by telling her why u want to take this steps. I will advice u to leave. remember u cannot please everyone and dis-please ur self, who is more important to you is your mum and that is why you need to talk with her.