Am I being unfair in this situation (details)?

Yes, of course. You go ahead and enjoy your party.

You wouldn't want a such a thoughtless person there anyway.

Yes it is obvious that you are angry because you have proposed that you will celebrate your birthday on 26th of May. I would do the same what you did. Happy birthday in advance.

yes you should go ahead.

she has made her choice but find out why before you give her a hard time.

it may be about her idea of how important birthdays are (or should be)

maybe she gets depressed about birthdays and doesnt want to bring everyone down

not everyone puts a lot of priority on them.

i like gordon 33's attitude . assume she is sincere in her regret and save her some cake

very nice positive outlook.

You are definitely right. She shouldn't have made other plans, and it would unfair to yourself to not go on and celebrate. You deserve a good birthday with or without her.

Yes! You should be annoyed but when ever did a birthday get 100% attendance? Just you enjoy with the friends attending.

I know its hard to get over something your angry about, but try. Keep on with your event, then go out with your friend for lunch later that week. =) Hope I helped

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Don't worry there is always one .enjoy the day with the rest of your friends ,and just say to the abstainer ,i will save you a piece of cake ok ,

You are 100 percent right, she is a jerk anyways. Go on with your party.

youre definitely right. dont let her ruin your celebration. its your birthday

can I have the extra piece of cake?

What a jerk move..